As to crying…
[spoiler]This is only the second time I’ve cried during a Buffy episode…or during any TV show, for a matter of fact. Both times were because of Anya. I cried when I heard her speech in “The Body,” and I cried when she died. It’s funny; I never thought that I liked Anya that much, but there’s something about her that elicits sympathy…except, apparently, from Xander.
Dangit; I liked Xander, I really did. I was even starting to like him more this season, after being thwarted by the whole leaving-at-the-altar-thing. But now…okay I was crying over Anya’s death; you’d think that he’d at least show some emotion, what with having loved her and loving her and all.
Other than that, the episode wasn’t nearly as bad as I had feared. Like some other people here, I didn’t like the whole Kennedy/Willow thing–they have about zero chemistry. That being said, the whole goddess/slayer exchange worked for me. Go figure.
I think that maybe The First’s plan hinged upon preventing this from happening. Before launching its final assault, it wanted to make sure the Slayer was alone. It would, of course, have to build up its forces, alienate the Slayer from her friends and family, and ensure that the potentials were killed–not because it didn’t want another one to be called, but rather to make sure that, should it fail and the Slayer and her friends find a way to call them all like they did in this episode, there wouldn’t be all that many new Slayers; few enough so that each one would still feel alone. It was only by banding together that Buffy & Co. were able to defeat The First, and this theme of teamwork/friends/family has been present throughout the entire series. So I think it works.
The Spike thing was simply another attempt to keep the Slayer isolated. Turn him evil, and she loses an ally. Force her to kill him or convince him to commit suicide, she loses an ally. Keep doubts in everyone’s mind–perhaps through cryptic comments like, “Spike’s time will come,”–and perhaps one of the others will kill him, ostenably to protect her, thus causing her to both lose an ally and mistrust her friends (like Giles). This, of course, is simply my interpretation.[/spoiler]