I’m sure all the women on the board will back her up on this, but my girlfriend was annoyed at me for a whole morning recently, because she had had a dream in which I had been chatting up another girl right in front of her, and then had turned to her (my girlfriend) and commented favourably on this other girl’s ass!
Guys, it’s not just me, surely?
I mean, it was a dream for crying out loud - you wake up, realise, and things are OK again, right?
Oh yeah, she has “forgiven” me now. What for?! It was…oh, nevermind…
Funny how real dreams can be, tho… Many years ago, I had a dream that I had a baby - amazingly vivid - and I was really sad and disappointed when I woke up and didn’t have a baby.
May I also add that I woke up furious at my husband over something I dreamed. I told him I was angry about something I dreamed. We laughed. Life went on. But I still wanted to smack him when I woke up…
My SO has had dreams of me having sex with someone else and he gets genuinely upset over them. I don’t know why he’s upset, after all, he’s the one having the dream, not me! He’s a little insecure at times. Maybe that’s why your girlfriend reacted the way she did. She may not be 100% secure with herself or with you and your relationship. Is she the jealous type? She may need some reassurance that if you did look at another girl you would keep the ass comment to yourself.
Dude! That’s so weird! I had a dream last night where my boyfriend has sex with another woman, and I was pissed when I woke up! Seriously, even once I realized it was a dream, I was planning how to seduce his best friend to get back at him. Then I fell back to sleep, and now I feel kinda stupid about it.
I’ve heard of insecurity but that’s just freakin’ ridiculous. I hear about some of the crap other women pull in relationships and it makes me weep. We’re not all like that!! I swear!!!
Oh, and by the way, please refrain in the future from such knee-jerk assumptions as “I’m sure all the women on the board will back her up on this…” If you’ve spent any time on these boards at all, you should know that statements like that are not only very wrong, but can get you in deep doo-doo around here. Just because your girlfriend is an insecure, neurotic nightmare doesn’t mean all women are.
I sometimes have dreams like that, and they do make me mad, but I realize that my husband is completely innocent of anything I dreamed he did. Probably comes from all those bad boyfriends I had. Usually I don’t even mention the dream to him; sometimes I’m so disgruntled for a while that I’ll tell him he “was bad” in my dream. But I’m never mean to him in “retaliation.” For some reason, he doesn’t seem to dream at all. I know everyone dreams; he just doesn’t remember any dreams, ever.
Even when I was a kid I’d occasionally have a dream that my brother did something particularly mean to me, and even then I realized that my brother had nothing to do with it.
I don’t think the dreams “symbolize” trouble in the relationship.
You really shouldn’t let your girlfriend get away with that behavior. It’ll only encourage her to grow up to be a completely irrational person some day.
When I was married I would occasionally have dreams where I was arguing with my spouse. I would wake up absolutely livid. But I wouldn’t let the dream change my relationship with him(he did quite well on his own!)
I have to admit I am guilty of waking up mad/hurt/crying over dreams of the LIONsob being with other women. I usually takes me about 30 minutes to calm down after waking up from one of those because they are so real to me.
For me the best way to get over it is to tell him about the dream and then ask him to just hold me. I feel better after that bit of contact with him.
I know Geobabe, that bit was supposed to be a light-hearted comment about women sticking together, but it obviously didn’t come across like that (sorry - I don’t want to end up in a Pit thread :eek: ), and my girlfriend is not actually that bad! She jokes about it now, but she was genuinely annoyed at the time. I just didn’t get it that she would be that annoyed for the whole morning.
OK, that’s cool. We have had guys say that kind of stuff seriously around here before, and it’s never pretty. It can be hard to convey that light-hearted joking in print sometimes.
I know, I have an odd sense of humour at the best of times that doesn’t always translate well to print. If you know me and can imagine me saying it, then I’m usually OK. I try to be careful, but that one slipped through.
::begs for forgiveness, and promises Geobabe free ice cream::