Sometimes my S.O. will wake up in the morning in something of an off mood. When I ask what’s wrong, it turns out that she dreamed something last night and I was an asshole in her dream.
I right away apologize sincerly.
Does anyone else say sorry for what they did in someones dreams? Does this buy me a ticket to be an asshole?
Don’t think so.
No, but I think you are very wise, and your actions are strengthening your relationship.
I’ve done that. Of course I don’t really expect my husband to apologize, but I will demand that he do so with a scowl on my face because I recognize the silliness of my request. But it does put me in a terribly foul mood that day.
I sometimes wake up pissed off at someone because of something they did in a dream. It’s really annoying and it’s sort of hard to totally dismiss it because part of your brain “remembers” it happening.
Walker, you’re not alone in this, mate. Going strictly by my personal experience (and this thread) it seems to be an exclusively female thing. Anyone got a clue why?
If I may:
Mrs. Skeezix one night asked me, out of a sound sleep, if I wanted the red blanket, or if we could get rid of it. I peered across her, at the only light in the room, the clock-radio. 3:40AM, or thereabouts.
Like an idiot*, I asked her, “What red blanket? What the hell are you talking about?”
She launched into a ten minute diatribe on the %^#ing red blanket, and did I want to keep the !@%@&@ thing or, not, as we had to get rid of one of the @%#^ing blankets, and did I want the %@#&ing red one, or could she chuck it? And, BTW, had I listened to single %@!&%^@ thing she’d said all day, for that matter? At the end of this, she resumed the silent part of her sleep, where she doesn’t use words she almost never uses while awake.
By morning, she disavowed all knowledge of any red blanket, as we had none, had never owned one, and, come to think of it, had never actually seen a red one. My wife’s subconscious is out to get me.
This has not been an isolated incident, though it was the only time I’ve gotten in trouble about a blanket.
[sub]* The correct response, of course, would have been, “Whatever you want, dear.” Or possibly a muted snore might have been wiser.[/sub]
It happened with a friend online the other day…She sent me a PM saying that she was mad at me. When asked why, she revealed that she dreamt that I had, er, relations with her mother. I went ahead and apoligised in jest…
i had a roommate in university would talk in his sleep all the time. thing was though he would sometimes fall asleep sitting in a chair with headphones on, and you couldn’t always tell if he was asleep, or just off in his own little world (which was common enough) until sometimes he would wake up ten minutes into a conversation… weird.
I had an English professor in college about ten years ago (on whom I had a major crush) who once told me, in the middle of class and in front of all the other students, that she’d had a dream the night before that she and her husband were in a restaurant and I was their waiter, and that I was incredibly “snotty” to them. She used the word “snotty” several times, as I recall. I was utterly humiliated before the object of my affections, and the only thing I could think of was, “Um… I’m, uh, sorry?”
Got a big laugh, as I recall (though I may be inventing that part of it).
One night when I was pregnant with mini-Marli, jr., I apparently dreamed that I walked in on my husband having rompies with his ex-wife.
I was so mad when I woke up that I sat up straight and kicked him in the leg. Hard.
“What’d you do that for?” he asked, bewildered.
“You S.O.B., you’re cheating on me!” I screamed - and then I promptly flopped back down and went right back to sleep.
I apologized the next morning when I saw the bruise on his shin.
Teach him to have sex with other women in my dreams.
Oh yeah - until, as a man, you’ve learned that the automatic first response out of your mouth must be “I’m Sorry” - to anything your wife says, regardless of when she says it - then you haven’t really done your share for the relationship.
I don’t know how many times my wife has walked into a room muttering "I can’t find my (keys/clip-ons/that bill we have to pay/that photo - you name it, she’s misplaced it) and if I don’t say “I’m sorry - where did you last see it?” I am in trouble.
I had a dream several months ago that I walked in on my SO having sex with a woman I didn’t recognize. I had a gun (???) and I started screaming at them and waving the gun back and forth wildly. I informed him that I was pregnant (I wasn’t at the time, IRL), and that I had one bullet in the gun. I said, “I bet you can’t guess what I’m going to do next” and promptly shot myself in the head.
If that ever really did happen, I wouldn’t actually kill myself over it. Sure, I love the guy and everything, but wow. I don’t think any man is that important, father of my children or not.
It’s nice to know my subconcious is far more crazy than I allow myself to be in waking hours. 
FTR, I did tell him about the dream, and I definitely did not expect him to apologize. He didn’t.
Mr. genie says he’s not responsible for things he does in my dreams. (I have my suspicions about that.) But I have learned to get over the anger fast.
There is a Friends episode where Rachel has a sex dream about Chandler and Ross gets upset about it. Chandler tells him: “I’m really sorry man, we were really drunk and well, it was someone else’s subconcious.”
I once woke up to the very unpleasant experience of being punched in the shoulder, hard, by Bluesman.
He immediately woke up from a dream and was very apologetic. Apparently I had really pissed him off in his dream. I told him whatever it was was probably his fault, anyway. 
This is cool. I’m not alone.
Okay once while I worked nights at a radio station I phones my this same SO to wake her up to go to work. She was all loopy from a flu shot and insisted that we shared a job and that it was fastening childrens seatbelts on airplanes.
(I should have gone for that and not become a teacher perhaps.)
Anyway, she launched into great detail about how important the job was.
Later that morning when I got home she couldn’t remember a bit. Not even after I played the cassete tape I made in the production room of her ranting for 5 minuites.
(no I didn’t broadcast it)
I had a dream that my bf and I were kidnapped by some dude. We were in a hotel room and this dude had a tiny, red, plastic gun. He said he was going to shoot me, so I looked at my bf. He just stared back at me instead of jumping to my rescue. I laid face-down on the bed. In the next two seconds, the kidnapper pulled the trigger, I realized bf wasn’t going to save me, and I snapped out of my dream. I was kind of upset about it, and the next day I quizzed bf on what he would do if we were in a situation like that, etc. He said he’d protect me, although at this moment he’s saying, “if there were blanks in the gun,” and “if it was a water pistol.” :rolleyes:
I haven’t read the entire thread… but I can assure you it’s not an entirely female thing.
My SO of 3 years sneered at me and laughed when I caught her having sex with a cop. I beat the shit out of him im my dream.
It was hard to separate fact from fiction for a few hours after the way she acted in my dream.
Two for her, one for me, we always apologize for each other’s dreams and make it better.
So which one of you guys 'phoned me two nights ago? I was real surprised when the phone went off. I worried aboout for most of the morning