Well, Hippy, here again I think you’ll need to clarify or support your contention. Just looking at one source, I find that in “commenly ]sic]” accepted usage, prissy means “excessively or affectedly prim and proper.” I’m still unclear as to where your suggestion (i.e., that sexual orientation is somehow crucial to this discussion) fits in. Are you referencing the sexuality of the butterfly, as I perhaps too hastily assumed? Or are you referring obliquely to the gender of your neologism flutterby? In either case I remain unenlightened: you seem to deny the former in your reply, but the latter makes no more sense, since English has no grammatical gender, unlike French or Spanish, e.g.
If by “here” you mean, as I must assume, at the Straight Dope Message Board (otherwise, surely, you would have more precisely defined your terms), I must respectfully disagree. Around here, the word gay is most commonly used in the third sense given at dictionary.com: “Of, relating to, or sharing the lifestyle and concerns of the homosexual community.”
Well, again, I’m left with no alternative but to ask for clarification. When you say, “unaccepted by the general public,” what exactly are you describing? Your sentence leaves me in the dark on this point. Do you mean to refer to the “vocab” as “unaccepted by the general public”? As in, a “smaller vocabulary [of words that are] unaccepted by the general public” (e.g., slurs against the sexual orientation of others)? Or perhaps to the “vocab”-challenged people themselves are “unaccepted by the general public”? Reading what you’ve written, this seems to come closest to the mark; it seems to be the position of most intimate familiarity to you.
Really, Hippy, you shouldn’t think of yourself in those terms. Even if you live in a place (your “around here”?) where people cavalierly and unthinkingly toss around offensive terms in general conversation, here at Straight Dope Message Board, we don’t do that, and we’ll accept you no matter how “hetraorthadox, [sic] unconventional, or . . . unaccepted by the general public” you feel yourself to be.
Welcome.