I didn’t want to attempt to hijack this fascinating thread, so I figured I’d branch off and start my own.
I’ve been following the above thread with a great deal of interest, and my wife and I had a very similar discussion just this past weekend (to my knowledge, neither she nor I have ever been cheated on, and we’ve never cheated on anyone). I noticed that some people in the thread put a lot of emphasis on the physical act of cheating, while others say that emotional affairs are far worse.
What I’m wondering are your opinions on the following two questions:
**1) Do you believe you would be (or have you been) capable of forgiving your significant other upon discovering his or her infidelity? Why or why not?
- Do you think that you’d be more hurt by (and less likely to forgive) a purely emotional affair or a purely physical affair? Please explain.**
In my case, I imagine I’d be able to forgive my wife if she decided that she still wanted to be with me. I know her well enough to know that it would take extraordinary circumstances for her to end up in that kind of situation, and that it would never be aimed at hurting me. I know it’s easy for me to say that since I haven’t been in that situation, but I honestly think that would be my reaction.
As to the second question, I would be much more deeply troubled by discovering that my wife was emotionally committed to someone else. That is where I feel our deepest bond is, and I would probably feel incredibly hurt and incompetent if she went to seek that kind of connection with someone else.
So, what say you?