I know variety makes the world go around but why must people in my world be in their own twist of life be on the same wavelength and make me crazily frustrated?
My sister is just so, ya know what, both my cousin and sister are so negatively focused. Never is their favorite word! Can only see the world in black and white. No color can get in there!
My sister clings to the same view and stays a grump all the time.
My cousin is alone and thinks she always will be…she needs to get out and meet people and claims she doesnt know how to nor would find someone unmarried and they are all creeps anyway.
Who can I call to take the word “NEVER” out of the vocabulary/dictionary
Its like no one has ever been alone. She feels like age 59, its over for her. Ok so if so, then stop bitching about being alone and not doing anything about it!
I can go without my sister but right now I am stuck with her until past my mothers funeral on the 20th. Hopefully my cousin will get off her pity pile. NO one else but her can be in whatever unhappy situation that she is in and that drives me just as nuts!
Grrrrr Just venting here, thanks.
Is there anyone else here that is positively centric and have negative people in your life?
I’m a happy person by nature. I get the impression peeps think I’m kinda crazy and they patronize me.
My eldest brother is a sad-sack. He holds his head and mopes around thinking sky is gonna fall. Its catchy if you’re around him long enough.
As I stated in the Can We Agree that Family is a Mixed Blessing? thread, my MIL is a terribly negative person. No matter what someone brings up, she has something negative to add. Bring up a restaurant you just went to and she’ll say, “Eew, that’s not very good.” Tell a story about someone that went on a trip, etc. and she’ll say, “How did they afford that? They don’t have any money”. Tell her you bought yourself a new whatever and she’ll say, “I don’t spend any money on myself.” She grates on my nerves like no one else can. We had her, my mom and my aunt over for a bbq the other day. It started raining so we all went in and invariably the TV gets turned on. We were watching a show on CNN - The Seventies. It was showing some of the music acts and we were all enjoying it - laughing and commenting on the hairstyles, etc. I hear my MIL “whispering” to my husband, “Isn’t there something else on? This is terrible”. He told her 4 other people seem to be enjoying it.
My family has always treated her like one of our own. She never reciprocates. She’s invited to all of the showers, weddings, grad parties, etc. and she always has something crappy to say. After she attended my niece’s wedding shower, my MIL told my husband, “There sure weren’t very many people there. I have more friends than that”.
Your post reminds me of my depression. When a coworker brought it up, I started trying to change myself with “On the other hand” statements to follow up each time I caught myself saying something negative. Slowly, my view of life changed for the better. Tell your sister that the rule of staying with you is that she must say something positive each day. And then ask her each day. Often times people don’t realize how their negativity affects, not only others, but themselves.
