I hate my fucking sister in law

The BBQ Pit
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I always thought she was uneducated and ignorant, now I know she is also stupid, and a cunt, a fucking cunt to boot.

She’s the older one, so somehow she feels everyone is still 10 and has to obey her orders. Hello, you bitch, you fucking cunt, everyone has their own life now. She is loud, overbearing, obnoxious, bad tempered and without manners. She’s only high school educated, and never had a job. I think mentally, she’s still in high school.

So what’s a guy to do? Because my wife has a close family, I can’t just avoid seeing her. I fucking hate it when she calls to get people to do errands for her. If I don’t do it my wife has to. Like the old saying, you can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your relatives (even one that come via your wife).

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Major, I feel your pain. And yet, I feel like I can one-up your pain. Or at least try.

I have 6 siblings - I’m the 2nd youngest, never been married. All of the others were married by the time they were 20. Amongst the FIRST set of spouses, there were two abusers, two cheaters, an addict and a compulsive liar. The only one that is STILL married to one of my sisters is one of the cheaters, since he got all religious and quit fucking around.

As the sibling of these people, I’ve had to babysit and console their kids in the aftermath of suicide and arson attempts, and while one spouse was “getting even” with the other. I’ve hid people out and been the go-between. I’ve even been stalked by one of my ex-in-laws. I’ve wired money to one desperate brother so his kids could eat, and called family services to make sure the other brother’s children weren’t being abused. Oh, and the compulsive liar owes me $16,000.

After all of that (and then the whole NEXT set of spouses - all but the one religious one of them is re-married, but don’t get me started) all I’ve learned is that since you can’t choose your in-laws, you have to choose how you’re going to relate to them. The person that marries your sibling (as well as the sibling of your spouse), is not ANY major concern of yours. Treat them like any new acquaintence. If you don’t feel like you can trust them, DON’T. You won’t be able to make anyone believe you, but at the very least you can keep an emotional distance that’ll keep you from feeling all sorts of guilt later on. Of course, if they’re as bad as you think they are, you are still going to have to comfort the people that ARE affected by it - but at least you won’t feel disappointed. That helps a little bit when you’re running around trying to pick up someone else’s pieces.

In your case, I’d tell your wife what you think of her sister in the most diplomatic way possible, and then let it go for now. If you’re right, she’ll see. If her sister straightens up her act, be as happy as she is. The whole point of family is that you’re the only people who’re going to believe that the best is possible. So voice your doubts in your wife’s best interest, but don’t dwell on them.

The only thing you can give some people is hope. The person that needs it may be your wife more than her sister. So keep that in mind, above all else. Don’t give her false hopes, of course. Just don’t be the guy that predicts inevitable doom - sometimes, being there means more than being right.

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Major Feelgud, I think people act like that because it somehow works for them, gets them what they want. If it is possible for you to stand up to her in a civilized manner, you might help break the cycle.

Maybe like, “We have made plans and will not be able to help you this time. In the future, if you would like my assistance, you would be wise to address me in a courteous manner.” (paraphrase to suit)

I just hate it when people yell and bully to get their way (see thread in this forum about my s.o.'s ex).

My s.o.'s ex tried yelling and using a nasty tone of voice on me, and I always responded without losing my temper, in even tones of voice, and with distant politeness. I did, however, inform her that if she continued to speak with me in this vein, I would end the conversation. Shortly after that, I hung up on her, very quietly, didn’t slam the phone down. After that, if she absolutely had to talk to me, she did it politely because she knew I would not put up with her. But now she tries to get at me by trying to bully him, so it might also bring repercussions to your wife if you try this; you be the judge.

I won’t put up with people’s bulliness, and it makes me angry to see people doing this to other people. I hope you can break the cycle.

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As I was reading I thought wow it’s as if he knows MY sister in law. The woman has spent her entire adult life in therapy and feels she now has all the answers to everyones problems.
The real problem is that everyone elses problems are NONE of HER business. She actually gave my husband the keys to her house so he can sleep there whenever he wants. RING RING RING - HELLO! He has a house stupid! He also has children who wait for him to come home every night. Geez!! She just can’t let go of my husband and he’s just one of five children but her fixation is on him.
Her house is a mess, she has to work because she married a guy who hasn’t worked a day in their married life, both her kids have ADD — you’d think she has enough to keep her busy.

I feel for you, really I do. As long as she’s not trying to break up your marriage as the bitch in my life is, try to remove your emotions from her and see her as an object. This way no one will get hurt :slight_smile:

Good Luck. Hopefully these people will just burn themselves out … or move far, far away

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Gosh and here I thought I was the only one with those kinds of families.

One sister is too goody, goody to have children but wants to tell you how to raise yours.
One sister has two of the worst demon sons you ever wanted to meet and acts like she is their sibling instead of their mother.
One sister is a hetersexual.
One sister has children and then sells them and so filthy I don’t know how anyone can even stand to screw her. Well since she only gets some about every four years that could explain it.
One sister smokes pot, drinks and then tells her children it’s Ok, but then shreiks if they get in trouble.
My brother just tries to stay neutral.
Just want them to just stay the hell out of my perfect life and my perfect children’s lives. :slight_smile: Yeah right nothings perfect.

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I have a sister who steals from her other siblings, sleeps with everything that asks, has to pay her grown children’s bills so they will ‘hang’ around with her, and is known as the easiest lay in two counties. She’s so stuck on herself, she thinks everyone is jealous of her. Yep… i’m jealous!!.. Always wanted to have an abortion, let my children have them, have my son in jail for cocaine/crack/dui’s, have my ex-husband sleep around on me for 15 years, get thrown out of every bar in two counties, etc. Go Figure… lol

idnew…

… is that a bad thing??.. must mean you are gay and only gays are allowed in your family??

. Yep, sure sounds perfect to me. Careful, we’ll all become quite jealous of you and covet your life.

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Tsk, Tsk Rosie you are a very jealous whatever you are aren’t you? Maybe you should go on a diet so you can have some fun. Sounds like a lot of bullshit your spewing there and a lot of made up fantasies.

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I’ll give you 50 kilos for that white baby…

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Feelgud, if you hate it that much, quit fucking her.

Ohhhhhhhh . . . you said, “I hate my fucking sister-in-law.” I thought you said, "I hate fu . . .

Never mind.

::d&r::

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Crawl back under the rock you oozed out from under. Damm, you sound just like my sister, so full of herself. Why is my post bullshit and made up fantasies???.. You are totally in the dark as to what my sister has done in her life and put her family through, so shutup stupid! :wally Sure wouldnt want to have idnew’s heterosexual sister in my family tree… sounds like a real pre-vert… LOL…

My sister will be 54 in December… and we’re talking OLD AND COLD HEARTED…she’s evil, has been from the day she was presented to this unsuspecting Earth. The Devil even hides from her! She used to cut the date of my birth out of the calendars, and made me believe that I didnt have a birthday… until she finally left home after I turned 6, and I found a calendar with my birthday on it. She was never around when I was growing up, but claims to have ‘saved’ me from all sorts of disasters… all fantasies of grandeur in her own PITY-ful mind.

Major Feelgud… carry on! Maybe if we get your sister-in-law together with my sister, they can compare notes and leave ALL of us alone!!! LOL

Ender LOL… i’ll bid 100…

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enderw23

[quote]
I’ll give you 50 kilos for that white baby…**
LOL, just buy her a case of beer and she may have something for you. :slight_smile:

Well not really sure if it’s all white. Is Spanish white? or is Spanish & Mexicans brown? Well not really sure what they are. Never knew they existed until a couple years ago.

Rosie quote

Probably kill a gay or lesbian if they messed with me, but now I do have a lesbian niece. Well actually she fucks both so guess she’s not total lesbian either. Don’t really want to be around her since I know where she puts her mouth now.

Don’t know what the hell your drinking but your fucked up, ooops have to have a partner of some kind to get fucked don’t you? Sounds like you can’t get one. Ho hum…yawn…

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Ooops meant bisexual. Had another topic in mind.

L714

Do you think? That would probably be to much to wish for.

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Idnew, I’m quite sure that when you said . . .

. . .you were joking. Right?

Because otherwise, I’d be forced to say something like “you can lick my bag right here and now, you ignorant, self-righteous wad of acephalic pan drippings.”

And we don’t want that, now do we?

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Oh andros now such language and speaking God’s name in the same topic.

Yes, I was only joking. Just responding to Rosewood’s mouth. I have a lesbian friend who now is battling cancer. She knows I’m not gay or ever will I be. Nor has she ever tried anything. She is a real sweet person. Still I do sometimes feel uncomfortable when she hugs me. Don’t get your balls in an uproar if your gay. Spice of life is to have your own beliefs.

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I dont get f*****… men make love to me.

Havent had anything to drink for several days stronger than lemonade and iced tea… what’s your excuse potty mouth?

No, Andros, she wasn’t joking. She also hates anyone of another nationality/race. She’s just jealous because real men won’t have anything to do with her drippy self. She has to have shots every week to cure the latest ‘bug’ she’s picked up from her one-night stands.

Andros… LOL… you left out STUPID and OLD and BULLY and TWIT and DEVIL…

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Rosehead, nobody cares to read what your saying, because it’s beginning to look like everything you say is just the opposite of the real truth. You really should seek some professional help. Sounds like you need to get laid by somebody.

Haven’t you already been removed from some boards for shit such as this?

Again stop with what sounds like fantasies that you wish were true but aren’t.

jeeze

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I see these three found their way here. They have been wreking havoc over at another board, and now they bring their problems here. What is it about some people that makes them fight their private family fights in an open forum like this for all to see? What is wrong with e-mail? If I haddn’t seen pictures of them all, I would think they were each 8 years old. But sadly no. they are much older.

I guess it’s people like this that keep Springer in business.

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Well fuck me well and good. After reading about all the other sister in laws, I’m going to run over to her house and give her a big fat kiss.

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This thread is quickly becoming like fucking car accident. Or Jerry Springer.

Quit squabbling–it cheapens the participants and consequently, the entire thread.

Thank you. Carry on.

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No, I’m just lurking. Now don’t be starting rumors.! :smiley: