My ignorant sister massive BITCH!!

Im the middle child in my family out of three. Okay I admit that we aren’t the best or near perfect family. We’d have our occasional disagreements and arguements but somehow it stills works out fine.

IGNORANT
My older sister is an average female who has completed a university degree and recently got married. Other than that she is a massive bitch, she is blinded under her own ignorance and self centered behaviour. She acts like she knows best as if she had never thinks of what she says twice. This is known as immaturity- if she was at an adolescent age its understandable, however she’s already in her mid 20’s. She is extremely lazy and will always make excuses to get out of doing work/chores/helping others/favours etc. She is weak and cracks at the slightest sign of pressure/stress. She will always complain about how hard it is to run errands, cook, work, babysit, housework, paperwork …bla bla! But seriously, it’s not so fucking hard to do all those things. She barely does all of those things because its all mostly done by mum.

The only time she is willing to do something is only when she has a motive. She gains happiness from other people’s misery. Constantly putting people down and finding a chance to ruin them, especially me.

She has been trying to ruin me as long as I can remember. I cannot recall not even once she has ever supported or even comforted me at my time of need. She has never once let me enjoy my moment of happiness. Recently I had dated a girl, which i kinda liked alot. Because my sister could not stand seeing me happy, she’d tell everyone how bad of a person my girlfriend was when she haven’t even met her yet, making everyone judge me wrongly. What i thought was outrageous was when she directly confronted my girlfriend asking her ‘why would you like such a person like him?’ which put my girlfriend and I in a very awkward position. She’d even try to annoy me in front of my girlfriend in hope that i will mentally snap. How immature.

UNGRATEFUL
Unlike her I am more controlled and morally trained. Throughout all these years of living under the same roof, I’ve coped with her shit. She is rude and ignorant towards the people around her - parents,elders,close friends, colleagues, family, employors, and even total strangers. She’s the type who will slap you in the face when one offers help purely out of goodwill.

Like i said before, my family isn’t perfect. Of course arguments will breakout between children and parents. I admit that I myself have had arguments with my parents, but deep down I know that parents will always want what’s best for their children. So I’ve learnt to appreciate the time i have with my parents. My sister has never been truly grateful or ever appreciated our family.

I’ve realized this recently when she got married - mummy and daddy had forked out a shit load of money and got her a house, a car as a wedding gift and even paid for the wedding reception. If it was me or any other person, I would have been eternally thankful to my parents for giving me such a costly wedding present. Ignorantly, she accepted the gift as if there was a gun pointed to her head. Until today she has achieved what everyone could have done at this point of age, yet she acts like she has conquered the world and everyone is in her debt. What pisses me off is that once she got married, she acts like she has been been detached from the family. Like a prisoner who has escaped from prison. Mum the other day asked her to help her out with some paper work because she wasn’t so sure how - she single mindedly refused to help out because she thought it wasn’t her problem anymore. I mean c’mon it’s just a fucking phone bill … it doesnt hurt to explain a few of the details to mum.
Throughout all these years of being mentally tortured of by this horrible person, I’ve kept quiet … watching her slowly ruin herself. Until today I have proven myself right. She is worst than the devil.

God chose our family for us, thank god I can choose my friends.

I’m sorry but I always have to laugh a little whenever anyone says that someone is out to ruin them. It usually means two-way drama of the worst kind.

Family troubles suck but I’m guessing you’re an adult and she’s an adult. Steer clear of her. She doesn’t like your girlfriends? Don’t introduce the two. Doesn’t respect your mom? That’s between her and mom not you don’t get in-between them. Unless you’re business partners or are being forced to live together it takes two to play these games. Don’t let the whole ‘she’s family’ fool you into believing you need to get sucked into that.

Thank God I’m an only-child.

Oh, okay.

Great Scott!!! :eek:

So… joined this month with a questionable user name to post this.

yeah.

Hmm, one’s first post is the OP in a BBQ Pit thread. This does not bode well.

The way you talk of laziness, weakness, control, and moral training makes me think you’re self-righteous as hell, but the way you talk about your sister makes me think you’re as much or more of a drama case than she is. You talk in grandiose mud-slinging terms about her and very little about yourself. What concrete detail you give about your sister’s actions does not pack the weight that your dramatc descriptions do.

Mostly, your complaint seems to be about who your sister is, rather than what she does or doesn’t do for the family. That’s part of it, but up against all the character-bashing, it’s insignificant. Controlled and morally trained people, such as you claim to be, do not bash character. They criticize actions and speech, and when they are angry, try to be upfront and specific about why.

I’m not sure I’d want to get involved with either of you. As you said, we can choose our friends.

How do you become morally trained? Is it through Cesar Milan-esque TSSST sounds when you do something un-righteous like committing adultery in your heart?

I really feel for you, fk_this. I have/had a sister who was a lot like yours. Sometimes, all you can do is remove toxic people from your life and deal with them as little as possible. Distance (mental or physical or both) can be a great tonic.

Bri2k

Sounds hot.

Yeah. Now that’s she’s out of the house, the problem should be mostly solved for the OP, and all of the sins of the sister will be visited upon her husband. But for such resentment to linger like this, apparently there’s something more going on that hasn’t been completely revealed.

a lotus flower grows in the deep mud, eventually reaching the light becoming a beautiful flower.

:eek:

Paranoid much? Or maybe not, if she’s out to ruin you. Is she also beaming secret signals into your brain, or does your tin-foil hat block them?

In all seriousness, sounds pretty two-way, family dramalamas running wild and free to me.

I do not admit myself to be self-righteous, because I do makes mistake from time to time. No one’s perfect. If you told me you’ve never made mistake once in your life , then you are a liar. I am willing to argue my point when something is clearly not right; which is what I am doing now.

The details that I’ve revealed is only the tip of an iceberg. My so called "dramatic descriptions’ are only a fraction of the self centered, ignorant, ungrateful, disrespectful things she’s done. I’ve always wondered if to myself if it was only me who hated my sister’s guts, but I can’t be wrong when almost everyone feels the same. Even members of our extended family and best friends are starting to resent her.

However I do thank you for the critique. I know I’m not perfect. Of course I can’t take out my anger by smashing some plates or going on a rampage. that’s why ranted on this thread - hoping to able to receive some feedback of what everyone thinks and maybe I can learn something from what people say. You can learn from your own mistakes, but you can also learn from the mistakes of others too.

Farrrr out! <toke>

Yes, but what’s her tits like?

The monkey eats custard.