I signed the mother of all pre-nups.
Most of it was also my idea.
The deal: 10 years of nothing for me plus 2 optional periods of 2 years. Meaning a possible 14 years of nothing for me. The idea behind the additional 4 years (2x2 years) was in the event we were having problems…we wouldn’t be forced into divorce because there was a deadline. He would take care of any children, of course.
The reasoning: My husband got burned in his first marriage. He was married for 7 years to his HS sweetheart. She held back his career. She refused to move out of Toledo to Detroit (an hour north) where he had a great job so he had an apartment in both places. No house, no kids. In the divorce agreement she left him with all the debt, 2 years of alimony, no dishes, a reposessed car and barely any furniture. All he had in his living room was a tv and a treadmill. She got married less than a month after the alimony ended. Bitch.
How do I know this? We started dating two days after they were seperated. (He lied about that, came clean on our second date and I dumped him for lying. We started dating again 2 months later.)
I was also going thru a divorce when we met. A bad one. Had my husband arrested for assault and battery. I left everything with him when I ran.
I was bitter, he was bitter. But we were in love.
We lived together for over two years, moving together twice, buying a house together. He proposed, we got engaged and he was in no hurry to set a date. I wanted to have kids and knew he was having issues because he got screwed before. The simplest answer was a prenup…a lengthy one.
I didn’t care and I wasn’t worried about him screwing me over, he’s very passionate about doing the right thing. I trust him and love him. It was a non-issue and I was happy to do it. It made him feel good about my intentions, and that’s all that mattered.
Now if he would just die so I can get everything anyway. Kidding.
We’ve been married 4.5 years and have a beautiful kid, as seen here: http://www.sammivision.com