I was fortunate not to have been the target of much bullying during school. I say ‘much’ because there were several instances in junior high where I was chosen as a target. 40+ years later and for the life of me I still can’t fathom why I was chosen as a target back then. I was a somewhat skinny, quiet kid of average height and unremarkable appearances, perhaps a bit bookish, but still a far cry from being the clichéd coke-bottle-taped-up-glasses-sweater-vest-wearing-greasy-haired-wheezing-nerd type that we often associate with being the target of bullies.
But even the clichéd nerd-types generally aren’t doing anything to deserve being bullied (thank you in advance for not pulling out any quotes from “Unforgiven”). Which begs the question - what type of criteria do children look for when selecting victims to bully? In recalling those sorts of events I’m having difficulty discerning much of a pattern to it. I do recall witnessing an incident where one of the school bullies went off on a boy who had Down’s Syndrome, and I understand that sort of thing isn’t uncommon, but a lot of the other targets seem if anything remarkable for being unremarkable. I guess I had always heard bullies like to pick on kids who - for whatever reason - are different. Maybe that’s not the case.
Were you bullied in school? Do you know why you were targeted?
It’s probably too much to hope for, but if you WERE a bully back in your youth can you tell us why/how you chose to harass anyone?