Ni How! (Chinese for hello)
I am an American in China so I can tell you the laws. In the city, the law is one couple, one child. Or really, one woman, one child. A man here can have five girlfriends and have five children if he likes.
In the countryside, you are allowed two children, IF the first baby is a girl. IF the first baby is a boy, the kid is an only child, if the little girl comes first, the couple has to wait a period of time (two years?) then they can try for another baby boy. This is stupid because I have read a report that states that the country only needs about 100 million farmers in rural areas to feed the population, and the country now has over 400 million farm workers. Since about 75-80% of this massive country is rural farmland, chaos will happen eventually.
Having lived in China for almost two years, I know a little bit about the culture. First, they like boys better than girls, for the reason that a boy will be more likely to support the parents in their old age, while a daughter will run off and marry into another family, leaving ma and pa high and dry. Second, Chinese are extremely social people and they do love children and people around them. That’s why they’re 1.3 billion of them here.
There must be paperwork completed when having a baby here. The high fine scares people into birth control (which is widely available). My wife knows a upper middle class young couple with two sons, I asked about the second kid and they just shrugged it off, paid a very large fine and that’s it. Unlike in America, if you do not have money or insurance here, they will leave you in the street. I have also been inside several Chinese hospitals, and most are filthy, but the staff seem helpful (the Chinese way of socialization, they are friendly even if they do not like you.)
Also, in brief, you do not see many police in China, there are not many squad cars running aimlessly about like in the USA. What you have here is a culture of blabber mouths and a lot of housing security staff who will report violations of the law. So, if someone has a second baby, it is wise to spirit that child to a barren reletive in another province.
The problem now is that there are 109 men for every 100 women in China. So, a woman could look like Leonard Nimoy in drag and have her pick of men here. Unfortunately, there will be a lot of unmarried men, in which a lot will be unemployed, lonely, and joining the armed forces of China. Many of the female children are at best adopted by foreigners or at worst abused and neglected. Since Beijing wants to put a clamp on population, they really can’t see this as a negative, until they wind up with 200 million angry, hungry, unemployable, horny men.
Zaijian (goodbye in Chinese)
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