I am very sorry to hear of your loss.
Good thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
No one choses to become the rock. It just happens.
I am sorry to hear of your loss.
So sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
My thoughts are with you and your family. My sympathies. 
Terribly sorry, Maureen. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family this day.
Moderator’s note:
This isn’t really a discussion so I’m moving it over to MPSIMS. (Which in no way implies pointlessness, it’s just not a discussion.)
TVeblen,
IMHO mod
That done…
Please accept my condolences, Maureen. Here’s wishing comfort to you and your family.
Veb
I am very sorry to hear of your loss, Maureen
We have lost so many of our loved ones this year!
:Lowering my head too:
For our dear Maureen and for all of those who have grieved this year.
Bill
I’m so sorry, Maureen. My condolences to you & to all who loved your BIL.
I’ve not had the pleasure to make your acquaintance, Maureen, but I wish to pass along my condolences and let you know that I’ll keep you and all who loved your brother-in-law in my thoughts.
So sorry, Maureen.
Maureen so sorry for the loss you and your husband have had. While my own experiences support my beliefs of our essence existing before the body, and continuing beyond that ‘timer’ and that the passage of death is a transition into the beginning of another part of our journey, the loss to those still living is a deep and difficult pain.
Every thought of our futures included that other person existing, either sharing in those futures, or at least, still alive during them. Sorting those ‘lost’ futures away from the new set is a terribly challenging thing for our minds to do. Would that we had a “find and replace” button for our brains, but, instead we have parts of us distracted and sad, stumbling from ‘lost’ future to ‘lost’ future till the ‘sort’ is complete.
For me, I found that choosing a beautiful place to be, and getting myself there, every time the sadness built up. Going there to ‘talk’ with the departed and to let my body and soul sob over the changes in my futures I didn’t agree to, gave me a lot of both comfort and relief.
Sorry, meant to stay at condolences, but slipped into advice. Travel your grief how you will. As a grief counselor friend said, “The nice part about grief counseling, is that all my patients heal and get better.”
You are in my thoughts. As to your mother-in-law, a book by Betty Bethards called There Is No Death has been Very helpful to a number of people I’ve worked with when they were grieving.
And … my email is there, you’re welcome to email me if you just need someone to talk to as you continue to support your husband and his mother through their healing.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you, your husband and his family.
Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting.
Oh, Maureen…so sorry…