Congratulations, you had a couple orgasms. That doesn't mean you deserve the kids.

The BBQ Pit
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I hate the parents of my foster siblings.

4 year old “Sarah” and her 5 year old biological brother “Casey” have lived with us since they were 18 months and 2 years old, respectively.

You know why? Because their parents sexually and emotionally abused them from the time they were born.

That’s right, a grown man sexually abused his BABY DAUGHTER. As a result of this, the two kids can’t be left alone together EVER or they start playing with each other’s privates.

Plus, their idea of watching the kids was to plop them in front of a television set and leave the house. They never spoke or interacted with the kids, so when they came to live with us they didn’t know how to talk.

These rectal ratchets also have a 6 year old son, “Christopher,” who is in a group home because he is extremely violent, something he obviously learned from his parents.

On top of all that, the father physically abuses the mother.

As if that weren’t enough, they are both fucking morons.

The court has given them way too many chances to get their shit back together. When the kids originally came to us, all their parents had to do was spend the next 6 months in counseling, play nice, and they could have their children back. Did they do it? No! They blew off every one of their court-ordered counseling sessions.

Did the court take away their rights? Of course not! They were given another 6 months to take counseling and play nice, and then the kids would be given back to these hideous maggot-brained excuses for human beings. Did they do it? No! They blew off every one of their court-ordered counseling sessions.

Repeat this cycle every six months.

The parents used to get to take their kids home every weekend and give them back on Monday afternoon. This caused the kids to miss 2 days of school a week, and they were so fucked up when they got back that on Tuesday they’d be utterly useless, so in effect they were getting 2 days of school a week. The parents then used this as a reason tehy thought the kids should go home to them. “They’re not getting enough school,” they said. However, Sarah told us while the visits were going on that her mommy and daddy had touched her peepee and made her touch theirs. She didn’t understand that that was a bad thing, you see, she was just telling us like she might tell us that her mommy and daddy took her to see a pretty horsey, because she had grown up with shit like that happening all the time. So, no more unsupervised visits.

The parents now get to see them for a two-hour supervised visit on Friday afternoons. During those two hours, which are right before dinnertime, they stuff the kids full of donuts. If the kids don’t eat, they get yelled at, and my motehr and I get accused of telling the kids not to eat so the parents look bad.

Because we’re the only people Sarah has lived with since she was a baby, she naturally enough calls my mother “mommy,” no matter how many times we tell her no, my mom’s not her mommy, my mom is “Pam”. She insists on calling her Mommy. Of course, the parents insist that we’re doing this because we’re trying to steal their children.

In court, the father said, quote, “I don’t want them to have my babies anymore, because they have their own agenda.” The wretched shit-dipped emotionally abusing fuckknot then started crying in the courtroom to try and gain sympathy from the judges.

This doesn’t even begin to cover all the stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid SHIT these assholes have said and done to and about and with these poor children. They obviously have never had the kids’ interests at heart, because if they did they would realize that people who sexually molest their own children and have proven they have no parenting skills, get the kids taken away then refuse to do any of the court-ordered things that would allow them to have the kids back do not deserve to keep their children!!!

Those vile pig-fucking maggot-ridden cheese-toed ass-hair-braiding dog-semen-guzzling pieces of fly-covered SHIT!!!

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All that and they still get parental visitation and aren’t in jail?

Fuck that!

There is something seriously wrong with the system.

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That is so incredibly, unspeakably fucked up. 18 months?! And she was molested? That is absolutely, undeniably, indescribably sick.

It makes you wonder where all the good people went. But keep fighting the good fight, ranchikki. It sounds like you may just have enough compassion to help these kids. Lord knows that they at least have a fighting chance now.

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I have never understood the idea of “keep the family together at all costs” that seems to be prevalent with Social Services. WHY give parents second, and third, and fourth chances when they have already proven themselves unfit for the duties? And I have NEVER understood the rationale behind giving a child back to a parent who previously sexually abused the kid.

Racinchikki, Bless You for taking these children into your home. It sounds like you and your family are doing what you can to give these poor children a “normal” family experience. Is there any way your family can adopt them? Have your parents been documenting all the fuck-ups of the kid’s parents so they can present that in court?

It breaks my heart when I hear stories about parents like that, and how screwed up the court system is. We need to re-vamp the court system and Social Services to start PROTECTING these children. I also think that they should give automatic hysterectomies and vasectomies to scum who abuse their children, so that they can’t make any more kids. But that’s just my opinion.

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but this type of thing goes on more than any of us could stand to hear about.

At the risk of being flamed, isn’t this a good argument for mandatory parenting classes, if not outright licensing?

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And who will enforce the “mandatory” portion of this notion?

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Jesus. rachinchikki, give the kids extra dessert for me.

I mean, what the HELL? They’re CHILD MOLESTORS. How can they allow this? It’s fucked up.

Good GOD…

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In what state are these “events” occuring?

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Yeeargh, I remember those days. I loved doing foster care, and loved my foster siblings … but I couldn’t believe parents would do these things to their children. Or fuck up their lives (their own, and their children’s) so badly, by completely ignoring the courts. And I couldn’t believe the courts would give them so many more chances.

racinchikki, best of luck to you. I feel for you, and there might even be light at the end of this tunnel, no matter how bleak it looks these days. Know that you and your family are the best thing that’s ever happened to these kids, and that if there’s any chance of these kids not being messed up later on in life, it’s because of you. Be strong. :slight_smile:
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**racinchikki, ** bravo to you and you parents and the rest of your family for fighting the good fight! I hope when I grow up, I can have the strength of character and the kindness of heart to do such work.

We ought to form an institution whose job is to take care of the best interest of the children rather than keeping families together. I’ve heard stories like this so much that I feel like putting my fist through my monitor.

I don’t get why they treat the children like property to be lost and re-gained in these instances, rather than like HUMAN CHILDREN. Who of course, deserve a chance at NOT being fucked up.

It makes me HAPPY to hear that the little one refers to your mom as ‘mom.’ She deserves to have a normal, caring MOM. This is the only stability and affection she’s ever known. I hope it makes you mom PROUD to hear that she’s made such a bond with the child. Even at her young age, she recognizes a mom when she sees one.

Here’s hoping those two stinking, infested creeps kill one another in a fit of domestic rage.

-L

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My sister is the victims assistance coordinator for a city, and one of her employees had worked with a girl that was being sexually abused by her step-father. Her mother was still with the peice of excrement, and girl was having behavior problems due to the abuse. The judge, in his infinate wisdom, decided that because of her problems she would be hard to place, so best to send her back home. His solution to the abuse? Put an alarm on the childs door at night.

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Rainchikki, I don’t get one aspect of this scenario. Per your characterization of the dad as a proven child molester why isn’t he in jail instead of getting visitation. Is what you stated re sexual abuse a fact or a suspicion? Don’t they typically sledgehammer these creeps if there is proven factual sexual abuse of minors?

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Well it’s been an hour since I posted this, so I will hopefully not end up with a double post.

Just thought I would add my encouragements to the **racinchikki ** family, well done. Unfortunately social policy, which is what the laws/policies regarding child custody tend to come under, work on social norms, that are then applied to situations that fall well outside these norms. The judges are often not qualified to make decisions as to the long-term best option and must rely on the ‘experts’ to guide them, unfortunately all the worth while experts can say is that no generalized answer, and unless you start funding the system, you are just going to have to put up with the random luck as to the type of person assessing the individual case.

In the mean time start laying charges against the parents involved. As (1) you may get these people of the street and stop them from causing further damage. (2) Given the behavior patterns they are showing, there is the real possibility that the cause will be attributed to your family either by the ‘natural’ parents, their lawyers, or by one of the often incompetent assesses they will almost certainly end up seeing latter on.

You may want to look at getting them professional help now, yourselves as at least then you will get to choose a competent professional to work with.

Britt

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Well, here’s how it is: The kids’ doctors have proven, initially when the children were removed from their parents’ care (prior to being placed in our home), and later after several week-long visits with their parents and grandparents, that sexual abuse had taken place. However, the children obviously can’t prosecute for themselves and the county will not prosecute on their behalf until and unless at least one of the kids actually makes a statement about the abuse… and they won’t talk about it, because now they understand (thanks to therapy) that touching pee-pees is bad, and they seem to believe (understandably) that if they’ve done something bad, they will get punished. :sigh: So the fuckwad’s still on the street.

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racinchikki, you and your parents are to be saluted for doing your best for these kids. If there is ever anything I can do to help you or your folks out just let me know.

I’m assuming that the penis-equipped individual (sorry, a person like that is not a “man”) who produced the semen to create these children has been or is being prosecuted for the sexual abuse he perpetrated? Is there any chance your parents or the child welfare organization can petition to terminate the parental rights of the people involved? I don’t know how it works where you are but a set of child-producers who blow off two counseling plans are prime candidates for a PRT petition in my state. This is especially true where there’s documented sexual abuse. IIWY, I’d be all over the child welfare workers’ posteriors asking why they aren’t running to the court house to file to terminate PR.

Astro, don’t be surprised that the PEI is getting supervised visitation. If the visits are supervised, there’s a social worker in the room to prevent the child-producers from doing anything physical to the kids. There’s plenty of opportunity for head games, however.

The child welfare machine in the US is convinced that this is A Good Thing because It Helps The Family To Bond and Gives The Children Contact With Their Parents, notwithstanding the fact that the only thing these folks deserve is a few ounces of lead delivered to the centers of their respective cerebral cortexes at supersonic velocities.

When I get elected to the bench, my courtroom will be equipped with chairs wired to a 50,000,000 volt generator. That way, once the

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make their case, I can press a button and make some headway on solving these kids’ problems. If they cry, even better. The juice will fry 'em faster and I’ll save a few cents on the electric bill.

Yer pal,

Zappo