I know this seems really shallow and possibly pointless, but I have to know if it’s just me with this phobia.
My sister’s name in not that uncommon, I don’t come across it often, but it’s out there. I don’t think I could be really comfortable dating a girl with the same name. Sure, I’d try it and give it a good chance, but that particular circumstance hasn’t happened yet. I dunno, it just seems weird to me.
Could any of you feel comfortable crying out your lover’s name during sex, when that name is that of one of your siblings? To me that would be most awkward.
I want to think of my partner’s name and get excited, be romantic, not think of my sister at that time.
Yeah. My brother’s name is common - and it’s the same as my dad’s and grandpa’s name.
But, I don’t call my dad or grandpa by that name, and luckily for me I think of my brother by his nickname. So I don’t think it’d even register that my dude would have the same name as my brother.
Huh? Of course I could. I have. Finding a mate is difficult enough without putting such a ridiculous constraint on your dating opportunities. On the other hand, two of my sisters have names which have fallen out of favor during my lifetime. Hell, one of them has a name that I’ve only encountered in a character played by Kim Basinger (I’d hit that) and a Nobel Prize winning author.
Probably not, considering I don’t use my brother’s name when talking to him; I go with ‘bro’, ‘Ruffles’, or a diminutive short form of his name. The odds of meeting someone with either of those first two as their actual name are slim.
Also, I don’t call my husband by his real name very often either. Usually it’s ‘love’ or something to that effect. So even if he had shared the same name as my brother, I really can’t see how it’d impact on anything.
Now, if a guy shared MY name, that’d probably be kind of hard to take.
(More so since I don’t have a gender-neutral name. But I’d imagine it’s an issue for Kym/Kim, and to a lesser extent, Daniel/Danielle. Also, Kelly or Tracy, which I understand can go either way in the US though they’re always female here.)
My older sister married a guy with same name as our younger brother. It’s not problem for her, and only causes a bit of confusion in discussions, with “her” XX and “our” XX.
My brother in law is a Rob, and so is my brother. It was mostly just confusing when referencing one of them in a conversation, so the BIL tends to just get called by a contraction of his surname.
Never really considered it’d be a problem for my sister, but I guess it isn’t.
I’ve only got one brother, and I never dated anyone with the same name, but I don’t think it would have been an issue. I shared a cubicle at work with a same-named guy, and he was way more of an ass than my bro ever was…
My dad’s name was Thaddeus - you don’t run into that much, but I don’t think it would have deterred me. Or either grandfather (Michael and Frank) for that matter.
As it happens, my husband’s name is different from all of those, so it never came up.
I wouldn’t be bothered at all - and I don’t even like my sister. Each person is different and his/her name is only one aspect of him/her.
My friend Mike is different than my other friend Mike and both are different than my old boss Mike - a man that I hated. When I think of Mike the friend I don’t think bad things. They are separate people.
It would be the same with any woman that I dated, regardless of her name.
It would probably bother me quite a bit to date someone with my sister’s name, especially at first, but I wouldn’t rule out dating a girl because of it. I’d probably give her a nickname immediately and try my hardest to forget her real name. I could never date anyone with my mother’s name. I don’t think I could even be friends with anyone with my mother’s name. Fortunately, her name seems to be relatively rare - I’ve maybe met two other people with that name.
Not quite the same, but my wife’s birthday is the same day as my stepmother’s. Good thing it doesn’t bother me, because it’s also my daughter’s birthday!
My half-sister married a man with the same first name as my older full-brother. When the parents moved out to the same state as half-sis, and older full-brother followed to go to law school, conversation got a little confusing as to which man we were talking about. This was solved by my mom, who refers to her step-son-in-law as King Jeff and my older full-brother as Our Jeff. Everybody’s happy.
Me, I wouldn’t have a problem dating a man with the same name as one of my brothers or my dad. We’d just have to come up with some other code to differentiate them.
Sure I could…she’s not my sister. I have a brother who married a woman whose name is the same in sound (spelled differently) than our sister and two sisters who married men with the same name as another brother.
One of my sisters has dated three guys with the same first name as my late brother - and married two of them. She named one of her sons “Teejay” (actual legal first name) after his initials.
That girl totally broke my squick-o-meter.
Myself, I don’t think I could do it. Both of my sisters have fairly uncommon names, though - I’d really have to work at it. Hell, I don’t know if I’d be able to get down with a woman named “Peggy-Sue” even if I didn’t have a sister by that name.
My brother’s wife has the same first name as my sister. And now his oldest son has just married a girl with the same first name as his mother and his aunt.
It doesn’t seem to bother any of them. It gets quite confusing for the rest of us.
