First of all this isn’t my main identity. I had to create it because of the circumstances involved. To make a long story short, I discovered last month that my boyfriend of 2 years (who I live with) is cheating on me big time. I was so hurt and heart-broken, but I’ve had to continue living with him as if nothing is wrong because he has no idea that I know, and if he knew then he would probably try (and succeed) in sweet talking me out of leaving him…like he did the first time I caught him. Sigh…I know. I was stupid to trust him again…but I do love him very much. I just can’t deal with this. I need to leave and this weekend is my only opportunity because he’s going to visit family in another state. I’m determined to leave him for good this time, and I want to make sure I do it right.
My plan: So far I’ve had the strength to pretend like everything is normal, so he has no clue what’s about to happen (thus, the alias, because he reads straight dope sometimes and it’s too risky to use my real alias). I’ve been doing a lot of research on schools and cities and I’ve found a great place to live through roommates.com. So that part is pretty much taken care of. I’ve located a couple of student movers in my area to help me move my boxes and a few small pieces of furniture into the moving van. So far so good…
The only obstacle is finding a cheap moving van that can take me from the east coast to the mid-west. I’m not sure what my options are. All of the moving companies I’ve looked into have been around $1,000. That’s a bit steep for me. Does anyone know if there are rental car companies that rent large vans at a set daily price?? If I could get a van for say $50/day then I would only be spending about $300.
If you have any ideas regarding my transportation dilemma please share them with me. This is making me nervous but at the same time I’m excited at the prospect of starting a new life and hopefully healing and getting over this relationship.
Budget.com. And good luck. I’m so sorry you’ve had to uproot your life. If there’s anything I can do besides a few words of support, or even that, let me know.
AmanitaMuscara - your first post on SDMB and it struck a very deep cord…
To answer your immediate question Uhaul and Rogovan both have good prices for cross country.
Questions:
Do you have a job lined up? Place to stay? Why such a rash hasty decision. I can understand wanting to get away from your boyfriend. But isn’t there anyone you can stay with? If you strong enough to make such a big move, why are you not strong enough to stand up to your BF?
He can’t make you do anything…Sweet talk maybe, but all you should have to do is say NO.
As for your move, be careful. I’m sad you are going it alone. I’ve been down that route, and it was tough. I moved from Connecticut to Arizona, 500 bucks in my wallet, and a spot in Arizona State Universities Environmental psychology program…
What I can out with? A PhD and a wife! We live back in CT now but it was tough living for a while. Two sometimes three jobs to live in an appartment and go to school full time.
I do hope you have a job and quick, because that is what keeps you from staying in your car… Again be careful!
P.S Leave nasty boyfriend a note with some type of scrawl like: Do not ever come looking for me. or some such.
Question: you can’t just leave? Why do you have to “escape”, so to speak? Is there a reason you can’t just put your stuff into storage and start living with a friend, or are you in danger from him?
If you are in some sort of danger or fear leaving, contact a local woman’s shelter and they’ll help you find a place to live and such. If not, move as much of your stuff out as possible, stay with a friend, and leave him a “dear john” letter for when he gets home.
with a quick re-read, I may have belittled your situation a bit.
I understand it may be difficult to leave this leech, but why not go live with a friend, or relative, or something a little lighter than escaping with a new identity. Sounds like there is some domestic violence issues here. What other reason would you have to change your identity and leave?
A woman’s center is a great idea! Do you live in a small town?
This may be the type of thing for which you might want to ask family or friends for help.
I don’t know about your circumstances, but usually family and friends are kinder than people might think, and there’s less embarassment involved in asking than you might think.
It sounds like you have a good plan, good luck,
I hope you write about him in the pit when you get to your destination. (but seriously, make sure you get some emotional support when you get there, we’re all rooting for you).