Can anyone help me out here? I’m looking for information about cross dressing. I need to understand the psychology. I don’t need to know where to buy cool clothes. I’m having trouble finding the kind of information I need to know. My searches are mainly turning up organizations and e-shops.
Needs2know
Try some of these links: (My methodology was to search using the words cross dressing and psychology).
http://trans.sister.org/PressGang/pg100003.html
http://www.sextreatment.com/links.htm
http://www.leaderu.com/offices/rekers/docs/baker.html
**Please note that I am just posting the results of my search and have not reviewed these sites for content.
You can find several abstracts from psychological and psychiatric journals by going to Medline (http://www3.infotrieve.com/medline/infotrieve/) and using “transvest*” as your search term. That can provide a good starting point for relevant articles.
I’ve got my abnormal psych textbook here if you’re interested.
And you can see my shaved legs anytime … chicks go wild over them
I’ve looked at a couple of sites on the internet now. The most helpful is a site I’ve found for husbands and their wives. You see I discovered on Tuesday that the man I have been dating is a cross dresser. The situation in which this was revealed is not a good one. I have not yet talked to him, but I wanted to learn as much about it as I could. I did know that there were heterosexual men who liked to dress in women’s clothes. I just wanted to understand it more. Any information I learn will be of help.
Needs2know
Needs2Know–I have access to some information that might be helpful to you. E-mail me, if you’d like, at pldennison@yahoo.com and I’ll send it along.
> I did know that there were heterosexual men who liked to dress in women’s clothes.
Not only that, but some women are openly wearing pants now. Pretty soon they’ll be voting & owning property.
Tampa…you can kiss my pants wearing ass! What’s with your little remark anyway? I didn’t make the fucking rules. I don’t give a shit if a guy likes to put on panty hose and high heels, but society does. And a lot of other men do in particular, homophobic idiots! Of course it’s become perfectly OK for women to dress in men’s clothes. Ever seen a Victoria’s Secret catalog? Women’s with long button up dresses on, unbuttoned up to their coochie wearing workboots! I cannot help it if society places more restrictions on men when it comes to gender assigned roles than men. Who’s been deciding what was acceptable or not for us to do these things pretty much since the begining of time? Men! That’s who!
Fuck you! Want to know my motivation for asking this question. I don’t owe you an explaination but I’ll tell you anyway dipshit. I want to know more about this because I’d like to be able to help and support someone very close to me. So fuck you again! I don’t feel threatened by this in any way. I feel heartbroken because I care about this person and I can only imagine how difficult things may have been for them. Asshole! Mind your own business if you don’t have anything of value to contribute.
Needs2know
Umm…Needs2know…
I think that Tampaflyer was just making a joke. A pretty funny one at that.
There was nothing in my orignial post or in my reply that indicated I was making any kind of value judgement on this subject. But the comments made by Tampa and Colin imply just that. Is there some reason why a person cannot pose a serious question to a so-called group of adults without having to endure snide and ridiculous comments? Did it not occur to these people that I might be asking this out of a serious need to understand? I refuse to apologize to a couple of insensitive dolts for being pissed at their flipancy. I am terribly upset about this right now because someone dear to me has been hurt, and my interest is genuine. I’d like to know how to help.
So Zumba defend them if you feel you must but unless you have anything worthwhile to contribute to this subject then I ask that you remain silent too.
Needs2know
Fine Needs2know.
I was not defending anyone or demanding an apology. I just think that you took a Tampa’s funny joke way to seriously. I didn’t read a value judgement in it at all. Just a joke.
When you cause your own thread to be tossed to the pit I will rejoin 
I am sure that I can think of something “worthwhile” to contribute then.
Needs2Know,
Ouch. You are obviously distressed by the situation. You were unaware of a secret that your significant other had. It was revealed to you in a surprising way. The secret, cross-dressing, is potentially threatening to your significant other because of the way much of society regards cross-dressing. It must also be difficult for you to deal with–both because of the way that you hint at the secret was revealed (i.e. in a surprising/upsetting manner) and because it is always difficult to find that a loved one is hiding something from us.
You are doing the right thing by researching and trying to find as much information as possible.
I know that there is a support group out there for significant others of transgendered individuals. I can’t remember the name of it but remember seeing a program about it on either PBS or TLC (the learning channel). I think you should seek out this group or a similar one.
I think that you are overly sensitive about this subject and overly harsh with the other posters. I believe that you may be seeing attacks where none exist. While they make jokes, I don’t think any particular harm is meant or judgement is being made. Please take it in the light hearted tone it was meant.
I have read all of the posts with objective eyes and do not see any attacks on you or your significant other. Please reconsider.