So, jeevgurl and I went to visit my parents this weekend. First time she met them. I thought the weekend went fine.
I then get this email from my mom telling me that she and my dad are very upset with me. Well, it turns out that they were upset because jeevgurl and I would hold hands while around them, or that I would sometimes sit with my arm around her. I was told that:
It’s inappropriate to do such things because it’s boasting that you’re having sex.
I’m the oldest child, and have to set a higher example for my younger cousins and sibling.
Because I engage in such displays of affection, it looks like my parents failed to raise me properly.
Bear in mind, we’re not talking about making out on the sofa or having sex in the dining room. We’re talking about holding hands and sitting with my arms around her. Things that couple friends of mine do all the time. I even tried to raise that, and was told that I have the “wrong friends” if that kind of display is appropriate among them.
Now, for Indian parents, my folks are usually pretty cool. But this just pisses the hell out of me. It’s one thing to say “holding hands, etc. makes us uncomfortable, please don’t do it around us.” I can accomodate that. But to suggest that I’m a failure as a son because I display my affection in public at all just pisses me off.