That you despise drugs in all its forms does not bode well. I don’t see how her cocaine use cannot become a bone of contention, even if she doesn’t technically have a substance abuse problem. Do you include alcohol as a drug?
I’m a social drinker. I have also tried weed (didnt like it) and XTC when I was young.
I shouldve said hard-drugs perhaps.
I dont have a problem with people smoking weed or other soft-drugs
I find it… interesting… that you’re focusing on the substance abuse angle and brushing off the inherent conflicts of interest involved in dating someone closely involved in a major financial decision.
My suggestion: Continue to date her, but get a different real estate agent. If you are lucky, these won’t be mutually exclusive.
The problem if she pulled a Mrs. Phil Hartman wouldn’t be the breaking up after.
Not saying it can’t be done, iknow several people who claim occassional cocaine ue. But none of them have money, I have no idea how you can use cocaine twice a week knowing full well you can function socialy and even do your job while enjoying it. I personally have not experienced any honesty from any one who was drug dependent, prerscription or illicit for that matter.
i would say enjoy the ride, keep her out of your business until you know her better.
Back in the 80’s cocaine was almost as common as booze in some (high-income) circles.
I was offered some at a Xmas party hosted by a consulting organization.
(for the “He’s a druggie!” crowd - never interested, never tried it).
In her 20’s and making serious money? That once meant “cocaine” by default.
Unless she exhibits withdrawal symptoms or refuse to out for a weekend without it, it is probably not (yet, at least) a problem.
Why has this not come up in conversation? If it was a big thing in her life, I’d have thought it would have come up.
If it hasn’t, either she doesn’t think it a big deal or she is hiding it.
If you can decide which, I suspect you’ll know how this will play out.
I understand that pretty much all coke now is cut with levamisole, so at least you won’t have to worry about her getting hookworm.
Let’s see
Girl : beautiful, gorgeous in her mid 20’s, making over $150K,
Real estate agent (specific porn category comes to mind )
Guy: in his mid 40’s
Would such relationship last? Hm … I don’t know.
What I do know the fact she is using coke is pretty much irrelevant in this situation.
Chances are the answer is going to be the same.
Am I cynical? You bet.
Or colon cancer.
I just can’t see this relationship ending well, if it continues.
Just enjoy the sex man. You’ll never have it as good again. Might as well enjoy!
What relationships end well? Very few, in my experience. I don’t think we should judge a relationship by its ending.
Coke is lame. All the cool kids are shooting heroin these days.
The cool kids shoot both.
Hell no. Cocaine are not going to be a problem but later it will. This relationship is doomed from the beginning.
Dumb question - why did she miss that day?
LOL
She said she wasnt feeling well. That day was a very cold day, so it couldve been true
If you break up right after you buy your home you will know how she makes $150,000 a year.
Ha ha…good one!!
Yeah, that’s not a joke. If you’re her client, she has an obvious incentive to fuck you (of course that’s a line most people won’t cross, but not everyone is hung up on such ethics). There’s a very high likelihood she’s not actually interested in you at all, which is a far bigger issue than the coke.
Are you not at all thinking how much of your money will go up her nose? Or whether the positive things she says about you come from the coke and her desire for a big commission check and not her authentic feelings?
For you, what’s the best way this relationship could end?
I’ll assume you checked whatever Ontario database tracks real estate people who have complaints filed against them for another pattern she may have. Why haven’t you found a house yet, btw - her end or yours?
If she knows you’re not a user or a fan of coke, she’s not honest w/ you about how often or how much she uses. But if all you care about is getting your rocks off, lock down your stuff and your cash and never NEVER ride together in each other’s car or hold any of her belongings. Basically, stay awake and naked w/ her any time you have to be together and you might not have anything bad rub off on you.