Oh, give me a break. :rolleyes:
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The ‘discussion’ was getting rather tedious.
Hey come on guys, lets not fight
If I heard my realtor was doing coke they’d be fired. I don’t understand why you’re not more concerned about such a huge financial transaction being in the hands of someone who may possibly abuse drugs.
Their main job is to show you houses and communicate offers. You can do than and use coke.
I could hazard a guess.
Thats actually a really good point. And I thank you for bringing it up.
To me, when someone starts doing this stuff on the regular, they are already entering a grey area where I feel they need some kind of crutch to get by.
Is it at this point an addiction, maybe it is or maybe it isnt.
Perhaps I’m reaching with all this, I will concede that.
I just wanna know if any “casual” users had any success dating a girl like this.
An anonymouse message board like straightdope is IMO a great place to start
Great post and excellent advice!!
And of course you know I wont follow any of it…LOL.
She is absolutely gorgeous. A stunner!!!
I’m actually worried aboot her when she does her job.
I’m thinking aboot buying her pepper spray just to be safe when she goes on her calls: Amazon.com : SABRE Advanced Pepper Spray for Self Defense, 3-in-1 Formula with Maximum Strength Pepper Spray, CS Military Tear Gas, UV Marking Dye, Fast Access Easy Carry Belt Clip, 35 Bursts, 0.67 fl oz : Camping First Aid And Safety Equipment : Sports & Outdoors
Oh, honey…
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If a coke user tells a casual acquaintance she uses twice a week you can be assured she is understating her usage.
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Cocaine was not my thing, but I definitely always understated my alcohol and benzo usage. “Sure, I have a couple of drinks in the evenings.” Apparently a 16 oz. tumbler of vodka is not really “one drink”, according to the intake nurse at rehab.
When she says she uses twice a week, that can mean any number of things. That can mean she does a line two nights a week or that can mean she does bumps all throughout the day on two days of the week. If you want to have a relationship beyond booty-calling you might ask her, but since you’re not a user she may be guarded about it. Plus if I sensed anyone was threatening my use I told them to fuck off, so there’s that too.
He believes she’s the hottest, most available gratis friction hole he can access right now, and that single object is worth more to him than all the money he could gamble on a house purchase.
Going on just the information you’ve provided, all we know is that she does cocaine a couple of times a week, which is not an addiction. Her usage could cause a positive OR negative influence on her life - we just don’t know.
Most drug users are not addicts. What is considered a hard drug or an illegal drug is arbitrary. Alcohol can kill you in a couple of hours - but it’s socially acceptable to use it.
Cocaine essentially belongs in the same category as caffeine. It’s a brain stimulant… releases dopamine… improves focus, energy, etc, and people generally use it for two reasons - to create a buzz in a social context, or to improve performance.
There are addicts, of course - but you shouldn’t automatically correlate ‘addict’ with ‘bad person’.
In my opinion, the best option is to decide what is best for you based on your instincts during the present moment. Don’t assume anything, nor make future predictions - just focus on your relationship with her and how the two of you feel.
If you replaced ‘cocaine’ with ‘anger issues’, or ‘anxiety’, or even ‘admitted cheating on her last 3 boyfriends’ you’d be in the same situation - guessing future behaviour based on your own pre-existing views. In other words… the only fact is she uses cocaine - everything else exists in your head (at the moment).
Don’t cut of your nose to spite your face (I’m sure there’s a snorting pun in there somewhere).
I haven’t touched cocaine since the late 80’s but I know when I did I would lie about anything and everything just to hear myself talk. Cocaine was extremely popular in high energy jobs like sales. Just from those I knew it seemed like it was always just a matter of time until they crashed and burned. Coming down off cocaine can cause extreme mood swings. Not talking withdrawal just coming down off of partying. I don’t see it as a soft drug even though one can be perfectly functional while under the influence.
Was going to say this. An addict (in medical terms) needs the substance every day or they would suffer a huge crash. Of course another real issue is that you don’t know if she telling the truth about only doing coke only once or twice a week.
To recap:
OP in his 40s, ‘girlfriend’ in her 20s
OP describes GF as “She is absolutely gorgeous. A stunner!!!”
GF earns $150k
GF does coke at least twice a week, likely more frequently
OP “despises drugs, especially cocaine”
GF has a vested financial interest in keeping OP happy short-term
OP and GF have apparently not even discussed her drug use (?)
I predict decades of happiness.
mmm
And etorphine is in the same category as Tylenol 3. Ever party with an elephant?
I can’t recall ever waking up the morning after a postprandial espresso with a raging headache and bleeding nose, hundreds of dollars poorer and contemplating suicide.
Well I’m sure you’re a nice guy and wonderful human being but you really need to be asking a serious question of why a gorgeous twenty-something woman who makes a decent income is dating you a man 20 years her senior. The cocaine use while problematic is not the central question in this equation. You can probably have fun now and maybe into the foreseeable future but with respect of being a long-term proposition magic 8 ball says very doubtful. I mean come on you’re deluding yourself don’t be a goddamned idiot.
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I assume the “8 ball” reference wasn’t necessarily a pun?
I agree that this whole things sounds like a disaster waiting to happen, in addition to the blurring of professional boundaries. In addition, how does he know she isn’t banging half the guys, middle-aged or otherwise, in town?
Whatever happens, DO NOT get this woman pregnant. :rolleyes: