This is an interesting question.
I know someone who is currently awaiting her papers to immigrate to the US. She is married to a US citizen, and has a stepdaughter. Her husband has full custody of the child. The child’s mother was arrested/jailed for drug related offenses and prostitution, and hasn’t really seen the child except for a couple of days each year.
Still, the child is 9.
The mother had “disappeared” a while ago, and was found murdered (along with other women) recently. I read the news articles, it checks out… I also don’t want to identify the family n’ such on the boards, so… I will avoid it.
They (the parents - dad and step-mom) are young, and don’t know what to tell the child. They told her that her mom had died (child was of course devastated - mom might have been a rotten human, but she was still HER MOM)… but not how.
IS the child too young to be told, in age-appropriate ways? My concern is that the child will eventually find out (it was in the papers, etc.) and be angry at her parents for not telling her the truth. When adolescence comes around, this could be messy.
What would YOU do in such a situation?