Anyway, I don’t know why you felt you need to call me a cunt. on the IMHO board . . . after all, IMHO is not The Pit . . . wasn’t your post against the rules? I’d think after 12k posts, you would know better, but I suppose you can throw your weight around here, especially to a little ol’ newbie like me. But in case you forgot, this is the correct forum to make such statements.
You went out of your way to insult me, and my response was hardly out of line. If you don’t like snide comments, then you should keep yours to yourself. Anyway, it’s a pleasure making your aquaintance, Mr. Cloudy Day! Maybe Mr. Sunshine will come out tomorrow . . .
Yeah, out of line in IMHO, but let’s be fair, you are clearly a cuntly little troll. No one Pitted you for your increasingly transparent and adolescent antics in that thread, so you had to do it yourself, huh? Pathetic.
I know that for some people, male rape is still a great source of humour, and very idea that a woman could possibly rape a man is novel and perhaps even a little incomprehensible.
I disclosed that I’ve been raped, because someone was pondering the scenario as if it were some completely remote and unimaginable “what if…” and opined that they didn’t think they’d “feel” raped, if the person that raped them was female and they left his anus alone. I think that this is because they imagine on some level that they’d really have to be okay with it for it to happen. I tried to let them know that the emotional reality of such an experience is quite different from the fantasy number running in their head. You don’t get repeatedly held down and forced into sex by anyone without getting a bit fucked up about it. It’s intensely shaming and confusing, and the general level of awareness that’s out there makes it damned near impossible to talk it out with anyone without running into attitudes that just invalidate you further.
Yeah, I called you a cunt in MPSIMS. An utter cunt. I forgot myself. I was already going through a certain amount of anxiety and stress from trying to articulate what I wanted to say concisely and without creating a huge hijack. I’d just been sitting there, thinking about how I felt during the times that I was held down and forced into sex by someone 50% heavier than me and for whom I had extremely conflicted emotions when I had nowhere else to go, and how it affected my relationships with women for years after. This is not easy shit to think about, much less talk about.
Obviously, you’re ha-ha-ha-it-wouldn’t-be-so-bad-to-be-raped-by-a-woman attitude isn’t funny to me. It isn’t going to be funny to anyway who has a fucking clue about what it’s like to be raped.
Most people, given the opportunity to reflect on this a little, would check that shit. You, though – you respond to someone who’s just offered a (very) little perspective based on fucking personal sexual trauma… with a dismissive joke? The way the blood was pounding in my head, we could have been having tea with the Queen, and you still would have been called an utter cunt.
It’s a damned shame, really, that you are such a cunt. My deepest condolences.
I apologize for my insincerity. This is my first exposure to this problem/tragedy, I had only known of this violation in terms of the opposite gender roles.
I don’t expect my apology to change your opinion of me, but I hope that in time should you encounter more of my posts, you will see otherwise. In the meantime, please know that I have learned from this and will add the appropriate filters to not just this topic but to all potentially sensitive topics in the future.
There is a fine line in terms of “inappropriate” humor, and I now understand how far I crossed this line with my posts. My sincere apologies.
Oh fucking bullshit. You got several heads-up in that thread, very explicit, and just kept right on with the antics. Or is it that females were speaking to you before, and you were too busy thinking about fucking them?
He was warned - repeatedly - in that thread that there are a number of rape survivors on the board who were likely to read the thread and kept right on making rape jokes.
His apology is less than worthless. He knew, full well, what he was doing and did it anyway.
He’s a fucking troll, and not worth the effort it would take me to come up with inventive invective describing him. Hell, he can’t even manage to be a clever troll.
This post is essentially only because I wanted to fill Really in. Courtesy to a Doper who isn’t a useless offspring of a diseased camel and a pile of contaminated medical waste.
Even after your apology, I’m going with you being a cunt, Roboto. It was obvious that your only purpose in the linked thread was to pull chains and troll.
You still have a chance to turn our opinions of you around though. No more pitting members for calling you what you act like just for more attention. No more ignoring others’ feelings to make yourself look witty and wise. Really, it’s simple…no more being a cunt and troll. Then you too can fit in on the best message board there is.
If the only reason you are here is to pick fights and be a prick do us all a favor and go somewhere else. You can even call me names on your way out the door to get your money’s worth.
Um, semi defending Roboto. Expecting to get reamed for my efforts. Seeing that I am a newbie too, I still remember how the first few posts/conversations/arguments went for me. I actually got banned out of ignorance of the rules, not trollery. I threw myself on the mercy of the mods (who, by the quality of my posts so far, are ruing that particular day— but I digress.) I was suitably chastised, nay, bitch slapped, and learned a lesson. Give him a chance, he was doing ok for a while, or at least passably well. If he is a troll, I’ll get in line to call him a complete fuckwit, but I doubt most posters here had a trouble free beginning.
Roboto, your commentary about rape was indeed ugly, juvenile, moronic, and asinine.
There’s a difference between stepping on a few toes by being a bit dense and a n00b, and deliberately IGNORING several warnings and admonishments that there are rape survivors on this board, and that joking about rape like that is Not Okay. Making a joke in the first place is a bit tasteless, but can be understood if you don’t really know who’s around. Continuing the joke on after you’re told several times that it’s not something that is taken lightly around here is pretty much the definition of being an Utter Cunt.
Also, my beginning here was trouble-free. I’ve never been warned or banned or suspended. I don’t even think I’ve been admonished in a non-official way (I could be wrong, my memory is pretty bad). And I’m not the only one. Most posters in my experience have pretty troubleless beginnings, if they have the sense to think before posting. It’s not hard to get along here without getting in trouble. It all goes back to the one golden rule - Don’t be a fucking jerk.
Don’t get me wrong, I in no way want to denigrate what must have been a truly appalling tragedy for you, and maybe this is just a quirk of my own psyche but I assure you that I’m not in any way relating this to any personal rape fantasies (God knows I hate feeling powerless in any way). I can fully imagine the humiliation and pain of being forcibly penetrated, so we’re not talking a lack of imagination on my part, either, but take away the violence, take away the penetration or threat thereof, and take away the guilt from being forced to betray my wife and what I’m left with I cannot imagine as rape, but instead something that feels more in line with… Oh, I don’t know… Having to drink a pint of vomit: Very unpleasant, yes, a truly hideous experience while it’s happening, but not something that would have the lasting effects I associate with the word ‘rape’.
However, I concede that you speak from authority where I do not, and even if what I’m saying is true, I don’t want to imply that this makes me better or stronger or anything of that ilk. If anything, it may well make me worse that I feel I could emotionally seperate myself so easily from what I consider a purely biological act. Furthermore, you seemed to imply that you knew the perpetrator, and I think the ‘betrayal’ factor would make a huge difference to myself as well.
First of all, I’ll absolutely agree that he was being a fucking jerk. I almost posted in that thread telling him that much, but decided I should just keep out of it.
On the other hand, in ref to trouble, there are many, many, many old threads where BANNED is figured in quite prominently under quite a few posters names. In addition, just for the short time I have been here, I have read commentary from some of the old hands, and even posts from a few mods that have made comments about themselves being warned, warned repeatedly, and threatened with banning over the course of their posting history. I’ve even read where people miss some of the banned, if only for the cheap entertainment value.
Now of course, since I have made the plea of “Hey guys, perhaps he isn’t a card carrying member of the Troll cartel,” he will disappoint, crash and burn, and go out in a 25 watt, half ass, lame way. Oh, fuck me.