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Less than arm’s length. If I can feel the breath of the person behind me, they’re too close.
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Naw, I’m fine with it. I know how much it sucks to not get a table.
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If I need to pee, I need to pee. I’m not afraid of catching Teh Gay.
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I don’t mind at all, but the bathroom is kind of small. It’s a little impractical to share.
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Can and does happen.
- About arm’s length if there is room enough for the queue, less if there isn’t, more if I have indulged my passion for tsatsiki lately.
- To object to share the table would be grossly impoliite IMO. I have even often sat in a restaurant at a table with another party - no problem, we just mutually pretend not to hear the other party’s dinner conversation.
- Wait for a stall. Shy bladder syndrome. (also I have long worked in an university office with one toilet, and the female colleagues put their foot down, hard, at men peeing standing up, so I am a confirmed Sitzpinkler now)
- Grooming OK, using the toilet not.
- Same as 5.
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Ideally, one step, but if there’s a lot of people, I can bear being chest-to-back with someone. I don’t *like *it, but whatyaganado ?
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Don’t give a rodent’s backside. I’ll be in my head anyway, and more than likely will have headphones on. I might have a problem if the person insists on making small talk or, Og forbid, hitting on me (STFU ! It could totally happen !)
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Same as n°2 : getting inside my head and ignoring the rest of the world works wonders. The first guy to utter a single word is liable to get pissed on though - out of sheer surprise more than anything. I’m kind of a nervous wreck.
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Neither. But my SO having a big thing about using the toilet ALONE, doubt the latter would happen
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Again, I wouldn’t care about either, but she would.
- Arm’s length
- Have a seat. I’m going to be reading, though, so don’t look for conversation.
- Straight for the middle.
4 and 5. My wife and I have been together almost 20 years. I’ve seen her give birth three times. There is no mystique anymore. We are long beyond caring about stuff like this. We do what we have to do (though one of us might get yelled at for not turning the fan on).
None of those bother me, and in the line, a foot or so is sufficient, and less is OK if we need to scrunch up to make room. However, I absolutely cannot abide physical touching. I’m an extremely affectionate person, and place a high value on physical contact, which is probably why I can’t stand if acquaintances or coworkers touch me repeatedly. Once or twice, I’ll deal with it, or a hug when first meeting after a long time, but don’t touch my shoulders or my back five times a day; it skeeves me out.
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I want them not touching me, not breathing down my neck, and not looking over my shoulder if I have to enter my PIN.
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No. But if he talks to me, or comments on what I’m reading/writing, I will move.
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n/a
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Does not bother me. No toilet please if I’m in the shower. (This unfortunately applies to all bathrooms in the house. A flush will drastically alter the temperature, even if it’s the bathroom on the other floor.)
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Again the no-flush rule must be in effect! But, while I wouldn’t mind, don’t care, except for the water temp change, nobody in my family would enter while anybody else was in the shower, except if somebody needed a back scrub. This used to apply to everyone but now we have A Teenager again, so modesty rules.
You know, I was a nice guy once and offered to let a lady sit at my table.
I was by myself. The only table left for me to sit at was a table meant for four people.
So I’m sitting at the table eating my pizza, when I see this other lady come strolling around from the buffet line. She seemed quite preplexed as she couldn’t find a place to sit.
So I said “Miss? You can sit here if you like.”
So she sits down and immediately starts telling me her whole life story.Mid-sentence she stops and beckons to three of her other friends (remember this was a table meant for four) “Hey!! We’re, over here” I’m thinking “We’re?” What’s this “we’re” shit? You gotta mouse in your pocket?
So anyway, they all sit down at the table. One lady had to go grab an empty chair from an other table. So now, it’s five of us at a four person table. Barely enough room to move. To make matters worse, I had to sit and listen to these girls talk about what A-holes their BFs are and where are all the “good guys”? :rolleyes:
Boy, talk about no good deed goes unpunished.
As to the op:
!.) 1.5 feet
2.) see above
3.) Go for the middle
4.) No
5.) No
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A few feet in front and behind is fine.
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I don’t mind at all. We’re both engaging in quiet activities that won’t bother the other. Bonus points for being attractive, of course (Don’t worry, I won’t try to creepily hit on that person).
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I’d wait. I tend to be bladder shy even though I dont consciously see a problem with peeing so close to another guy.
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I wouldn’t mind if she came in and I was in the shower. I don’t do anything in there that she hasn’t seen before. Using the toilet is another story. Thats some of the best me-time a man can have. I get a lot of good reading done. I also don’t want to subject her to the pure, concentrated evil that comes from within me during that time. You know that stuff that John Coffee expels from his mouth in The Green Mile? Totally based on me.
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Same as 4 for being in the shower. I have a theory about girls on the toilet. I don’t believe women really poop. What happens is that when they feel compelled to do so, they to head on down to their local manufacturing plant, squat over a giant conveyor belt and produce the world’s marshmallow peeps supply for the year. So I guess it’s not really a problem.
- 18-24" or so.
- “Please do.” but I’ll regret it if they turn out to be a chatty person.
- Girl
- Doesn’t bother me a bit if someone uses the facilities while I’m showering, just don’t flush!
- Bothers my husband a bit if I use the toilet, but not if I’m grooming. No biggie, I wait my turn. Luckily we have two bathrooms for emergencies.
1. You’re in line at your local coffeehouse thinking about neurophysics & stuff. There’s maybe 3 people in front of you and 3 behind. How close do you get to the person immediately in front of you. How far back do want the person behind you? A foot or two. I don’t mind crowds too much, but I really dislike having someone else’s (a stranger) face really close to mine, or feel like they’re breathing on me. I’m not germophobic, I just hate how it feels.
2. After ordering your latte, you sit down at a table to work on your epic poem about the quantum thermodynamics. You’re engrossed in your work and sit at a big table, bigger than you really need in fact. No other tables are available. A perfect stranger asks if you mind if he or she sits on the opposite of the table to study. Do you object?
Not at all.
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4. You and your wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend,or whatever are getting ready for work in the morning. You’re in the shower. The other person is running late. Does it bother you if he or she comes in and grooms himself or herself? What about using the toilet?
No, he can come in and use the toilet, etc. while I’m in there, no issues. We only have one bathroom, anyway.
5. Same situation as four, except the other person is in the shower and you are the one running late. Do you mind grooming yourself while they bathe? Using the toilet?
No, it’s fine. The only thing I dislike is that it gets steamy, so the mirror fogs up and it’s hot. And if it’s cold in the house I hate to leave the door open because it’ll be freezing for him when he gets out.
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1’ is okay. I never want to be the dickhead that strings the line out the door and down the block. I’m physically affectionate with a handful of people, everyone else should keep their bloody distance. Why do people try to hug when meeting, NOT COOL, handshakes people, handshakes are where it’s at.
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I might even invite someone to sit down, no worries. If someone ended up right beside me though, I’d probably leave, even if I told them it was okay to share my table, is that messed up?
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I’m glad I’m not a dude.
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My room mate and I eventually got used to peeing in front of each other, we discovered we didn’t personally care, we were just worried about what the other person would think. When ya gotta go ya gotta go.
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Grooming and peeing are totally fine but I don’t think I would ever be okay with crapping in front of someone else. I’m sure there are mitigating circumstances but that’s the one area I value my privacy no matter how intimate the relationship.