And how did that work out for you?
My first marriage was to crazy. Everybody knew it but me, until she flipped out when I gave her a dozen roses on her birthday. She said they had no smell, and it was all my fault. It was all downhill from there.
I will never do that again.
PTF
It’s not right to think of someone as “the crazy.” Whatever problems you may have had with an individual, this is a human being here, with a real life - probably in need of help.
I think I probably was the crazy in my first few relationships. Luckily I got better (and saner) with age.
I found out we are all the same but only different crazy devils.
Nothing is “crazy” if you’re getting good sex and love vibrations. All the “crazy” behavior your SO exhibits that your friends and relatives warn you about are just their uninformed opinions.
Until the day comes that you both need to cooperate to get any kind of serious, stressful or critical “heavy lifting” things done, and the SO needs to perform outside the parameters of being snuggly or good in bed. At that point you discover that you are tied to an unstable loon in a three legged race. Hindsight is always 20-20.
I do know a woman who admits to having been “the crazy”. She’s better now, but described that stage of her life with the phrase “I didn’t have relationships, I took hostages.”
I’m watching the drama unfold as a coworker of mine drowns himself in the crazy. He’s separated from his crazy wife of 20 odd years and just moved in with someone who shared a drunken threesome/ partner swapping/ phone stealing/ police calling incident on FB for all his friends, coworkers and family to see. The incident was only around a month ago.
He didn’t tell me but I found out from others. I suspect being with him makes a person crazy.
There needs to be an option between “disaster” and “amazing.”
I can’t vote. I have a dick that I never put in the crazy, however a few crazies have put their dick’s into to me. There are quite a few “the crazy” who are male you know.
crazysmiley
Or “Weird”?
Please, take my advice:
If a woman tells you that her grandmother was bi-polar, and
If she tells you that her mom was seriously a ‘no wire hangers’ tyrant mother from hell, and
That she herself has been described as ‘bat shit crazy’…
Even if you think, ‘Noooooo, I don’t see crazy’ DO NOT FUCKING MARRY HER.
On odds it might work that way but one of the sanest human beings I know is surrounded with absolute crazy on her mother’s side of the family, and is absolutely rock solid in her ability to get along with other people.
Never done it, but only because I wasn’t so far as I know given the opportunity.
Both genders can be insane. If you continually have problems with your partners, generally the issue is with you. It’s also incredibly dehumanizing to call another person ‘the crazy’.
I can think of few things more uniquely human than crazy.
Oh lighten up. :rolleyes:
Then that is not the case in my life. I have been in two other long term relationships not challenged by the crazy.
When I’ve seen the phrase ‘Don’t stick your dick in the crazy’, my impression (and I could be wrong) wasn’t that the actual person was being referred to as ‘the crazy’. I don’t think of the phrase as meaning ‘Don’t sleep with people who have mental illnesses’, either.
There are people - some mentally ill, some (most?) not - who create a cloud of crazy around them wherever they go. Any situation they get involved in promptly becomes full-on batshit. Normally sane people turn into raving loopers when they’re sucked into this person’s orbit.
I always pictured ‘the crazy’ as being that cloud of crazy, not the actual person. I think of ‘Don’t stick your dick in the crazy’ as meaning ‘Do not get sucked into that cloud on a sexual level’.
Which, touch wood and thank the gods, I never have.
Perfectly said.
