One of my closest friends was obviously settling for her fiance. She always talked about how she wasn’t physically attractive to him and every little thing he did annoyed her. But dammit, she was getting married, even if she couldn’t stand the guy!
Myself and another one of our friends took her to dinner about a week before the wedding (there was no wedding planned, they were going to tahoe, only her immediate family was invited) and asked if she loved him. She said “I’m getting there?” Oy. We told her she was making a mistake. She didn’t care. She wanted stability, and he could give it to her.
He went to the police acadamy, got a job as a PO, couldn’t make it past probation and can’t get a police job anywhere. So much for security. He eventually joined the national guard and went to Georgia for training for 4 months. She lasted about a week before she started messing around on him. She was so happy in those 4 months. Then he came back and now she’s misreable again.
I asked her if she was going to divorce him. She said she would. Then her family talks her out of it (she had to get the insatiable need for security from somewhere). Last I heard, she’s waiting until he gets shipped off to divorce him.
Sad.