It happened a couple of years after I graduated, but didn’t come out and turn into a legal matter for maybe four years after that. The student was 18, the act happened a week or so before his graduation, and the teacher went to prison for a year or two and is now a registered sexual predator for life (in the worst category of offender too). It was just so stupid all around. Her behavior (her job was such that she absolutely 100% knew what she was risking), the prosecutors and police strutting around talking about how they were protecting children, the sentence, the sex offender registry, everything was just dumb and bad and nobody was better or safer at the end of it.
Then the parents of the “victim” tried to use it to get a windfall from the school district, since their sob precious little baby boy (by then 22 or or 23) was sniff ABUSED. I wasn’t aware that being the parents of an adult victim was grounds for getting a new house. (Maybe it’s not, though. The cash-grab was quickly dismissed, but the reasons were not publicly disclosed.)
Could you elaborate a bit more on the boy and the teacher?
I hate to say it but damn…where were some of these teachers when I was in school? I know it’s considered statutory rape and should be penalized but I still think that at least having the opportunity to be with a teacher would be great.
I imagine teachers who get with students like that and don’t have any emotional issues must be seeking a young buy that is very ‘mature’ (appearance wise and behaviour) for their age.
Funnily enough, I may be a man misinterpreting politness for attraction but my Chemistry teacher when I was 14 really seemed to give me lots of smiles and when I made mistakes, she just smiled more.
However when I reached the senior cycle she went insanely beserk specifically on me and told me to “Grow Up” many times. I honestly think that if I “copped on”, I may have gotten laid.
I knew a teacher (coach) in the school where I taught. He had a “big red couch” in his coach’s office. Rumor was that he had used it to effect with certain young girls.
A couple of years after I left that school the report from his then (and now) ex-wife was that some kind of indoor track meet had been discovered, taking place on that couch. Divorcage and firage ensued, or so I’ve been told.
Craziest story in HS was that two teachers were recently divorced and they began talking and eventually married. I mean, they got married just a few years ago from what I remember being told. It was a relationship that blossomed over a decade.
There was a teacher at our middle school who propositioned a student he was tutoring. The student reported it and then after that others came forward. Nobody claimed they had sex with the teacher but all claimed he hit on them.
I never had him for any subjects but I knew who he was and always thought he was creepy as hell.
ETA: I believe the teacher was just fired but not prosecuted for anything. This was in early 1975.
I think this is an issue that also affects us as adults. Lets face it, we still have memories and fantasies.
So then what happens when we have kids and we see things starting to develop? Do we clamp down and stop things before they get started or do we let them play out because in the back of our minds we might still think its a good thing?
Well, back when I was in high school in the '70’s we considered ourselves “with it” and sophisticated, in that way that teenagers trying to act grown-up do. The cultural norms that we strove for were anti-establishment. Consequently, it was no big deal, and an open secret, that the cool male teacher was available to meet with high school girls in his private office to offer help with their troubles of the day (*wink).
Also, I ended up going to the prom with a girl in our social circle. We were not a couple but each of us didn’t have a date so we went together. It was widely known that she was dating one of the English teachers, and I was just a convenient escort.
I went to a large high school so there may have been things going on outside of my group that I never heard of. No arrests or public exposure while I was in high school.
The year after I graduated one of the teachers I had was busted for going on trips and paying young boy prostitutes with drugs. Rumors came out then about students but nothing was proven as far as I know.
Later one of my old teachers was convicted of sexual assault of a minor but that was a family member not a student.
In the last 20 years I locked up a couple of teachers but none were working when I was in high school.
I had a teacher friend who was a chaperone on a senior trip. This was a post-graduation trip to national competition for Future Business Leaders of America (FBLA). On this trip, he had some interesting conversations with students discussing sex. I think he let some students hook up on the trip.
Afterwards I kept in touch for a while, and would check in on him when I came to town. I think he was trying to suss me out as a possible, and almost took me to a gay hook up spot.
He also told me another high school teacher (male) was caught propositioning a young former student (male). This was apparently a sting set up by the police, so I don’t know the background on that, or what really played out as I didn’t live there any more. However, my friend the teacher I think stopped teaching soon after that.
When I was in high school in the 80s, the coach of my swim team (not the high school swim team; it was a swim club) was serially sleeping with girls on our team. During each of his wife’s pregnancies. We wouldn’t rat them out, but most of us mentioned to our parents “hmm, isn’t it odd that Coach T is always driving [Michelle] in his tiny sports car to out-of-town swim meets, while the rest of us carpool?”
To which, not one parent I know of made further inquiries. My mother scolded me for “gossping”.
A few years after I’d graduated and gone on to college, I found out from one of my younger teammates who was still on the team that Coach T had finally gotten arrested, for statutory seduction… since that season’s girl had turned up pregnant. My mother averred that all the parents were “shocked”, and then thrived on the gossip for almost a year about who had known but not said anything.
Looking back with the hindsight of today’s environment, the whole thing is even more queasy-making than it used to be.
There was a male English teacher at my high school who left suddenly in the middle of an academic year. There were rumors that something like this had happened. This was in 1990.
Not a student/teacher but equally gross. A female friend I went to school with was later in life arrested for sleeping with multiple teenage boys at a local high school. All friends of her teenage daughter who attended the same school. She was not a teacher, just the “cool mom” who couldn’t not bang her daughter’s friends. She justifiably went to prison for it.
There was one skeevy gym coach who married a former student, then later got arrested for (during his planning hour) jerking off on a webcam with some women online, who saw he was in a school and called the cops on him.
Then there was my guidance counselor who got sacked for having motel parties with high-school boys and giving them beer and who knows what else.
A male teacher when I was in high school was dating a student. Most all of us kids knew it, but we kept our mouths shut because we knew he was just doing what she told him. They got married a year or two after she graduated. I’m pretty sure they still are.
There were rumors of quite a lot of other encounters of which I’m fairly sure at least half were true.
