Dietary Disasters

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Today in the kitchen:

Mom: Damn… there are not enough spaghetti for all of us. I ll have to make some extra spaghetti.
Me: Never mind, just give me half as much as you and dad - I can make a sandwich if I get hungry later.
Mom: But a sandwich has more calories than this!
Me: For fuck s sake… you decide.
I am really really fed up with my mom s diet fever.
Whenever she is on diet I have to eat less too, because she cant stand if somebody eats next to her when she may not.

When I gane a bit of weight she ll start commenting about my fat ass, tell me that my face is out of shape and just laugh about me.
She doesnt want to be mean, she just wants me to lose weight.

That is, because she lost 20 kilo when she was a teeny, and that was very hard for her. So she figured she wouldnt let that happen to me and stop me from eating whenever I gained 1 kilo. Cause in that case I d just have to diet a week, and not half a year, like she had to.

Yuck.
So I cant remember a time I was not on diet since the age of 9 or 10 years.

I guess my eating habits are not all that healthy and I enjoy that I can partly blame mom for my madness.

Whatsoever - what I wanted to ask for are your “you are getting fat - honey - want some more cake?” stories of the dear, dear family and friends.
When did you try to lose weight for the first time?
Excuse me, I ll have to walk upstairs on tip-toes now, so nobody can hear me take some candy…

yummie :slight_smile:

loons

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I’ve never tried to lose weight yet. I’ve always been able to eat pretty much what I want and I’m still fairly thin. That really annoys all the girls I know. :smiley:

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Enjoy it while it lasts. It probably won’t.

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envies cumber

You may feel envied now.

loons :slight_smile:

BTW: I got a theory on that “I can eat whatever I want” thing -
I think most ppl who say that cant actually eat more than others without gaining wait. I think they just got good eating habits. There are ppl who ll practically eat all day but they ll just nibble on a little something instead of stuffing heaps and heaps into their mouth.
Ór they are very sportive and need lots of energy…

Damn… I should cycle to school more often sigh

loons

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Umm…Born? (or is it "Dodgy? Which do you prefer?) It sounds like your mom is trying to superimpose some of her flakiness on you. If you were to tell her to f*** off, I’d be behind you.

At least on this whole weight thing. I’m not making any judgement about her parenting skills…just her dieting vicariously. :slight_smile:

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No, some people do have faster metabolisms. Teenagers can often eat all day. They get older, they get fatter in most cases. Activity and actual quantity also figure. One of the biggest eaters I’ve ever seen was a powerlifter.

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My metabolism used to be down the shitter…if I ate a 6 ounce candy bar I would gain 5 pounds. Go figure. But ever since I’ve started kickboxing, my metabolism has been able to handle everything I eat, and I’m still slightly under average weight for someone like me.

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BD: you are a teenager. As far as medical science is concerned, you’re not done growing yet until 20, at the earliest. Forget about your mom. You’re skinny. You need to eat:)

“When I gane a bit of weight she ll start commenting about my fat ass, tell me that my face is out of shape and just laugh about me.”

Eat whatever you like. Screw what your mom says.

A while back I thought I was fat because I had this pudgy area around my waist. My sisters, father and mother got really pissed off at me for complaining about that. So I basically stayed away from them.

My advice to you: remember that you are beautiful. Remember that if you gained 200+ lbs you would still be beautiful. DO not (under penalty of death) dye your hair.

I do not generally gain much weight when I eat. and I eat a fair amount. This is due as much to metabolism as it is to that I enjoy sprinting and working out.

Your mom is not you. If she does something that bothers you, tell her.

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No thoughts on dieting, I just wanted to say that I love the expression “for fuck’s sake”. Ever since seeing Trainspotting, that’s worked it’s way into my vocabulary. Seems you keep making me think of that movie.

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I am not very active (in fact slothful may be more appropriate adjective for me), and I’m sure it won’t last. But I’ll enjoy it while it does. :slight_smile:

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If you told your mom that her treatment of you is a prescription for an eating disorder, do you think she might lighten up?

I’ve noticed that the healthiest people eat what they like when they like and spend much less time thinking about food than those of us who are constantly thinking we need to diet. That’s impossible in a household where someone’s assessing every bit of food you put in your mouth, and maybe if you pointed that out to your mom, she could try to tone down the criticism a little.

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Bump.

This is important stuff here.

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Uhm… I didnt mean this subject to become too serious…
It just pisses me off that my mom does that - it used to really bother me - but I ve been in therapy for other stuff and so when I started developing bulimia my psycho lady helped me to stop my “realtionship with the toilet” right away.

Now I am really fine…
I was just wondering if more ppl here have such “encouraging (sp?)” mothers…

I also noticed that I have a totally diffrent eating behaviour when I live on my own…
I do so much stuff then that I sometimes forget to eat in days…
and when I am skint I just dont eat to save money…
not the healthiest thing either I guess LOL

dodgy

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I’ve been on a diet for only about 2.5 weeks, but I’ve lost 15 pounds. It’s an innovative diet that I invented in college that seems to be the only one that will work for me. I’m sure it’s unhealthy. Here are the rules:

  1. You can eat exactly one meal per day. It doesn’t matter if that meal is breakfast, lunch or dinner.

  2. You can drink whatever you like, except for Burger King milkshakes and drinks that are obviously fattening. No cheating by grinding up solid food with your food processor and drinking it.

  3. That’s it.

Believe it or not, this twisted diet is actually working for me.

On another note, I’m now going to rant about the assholes in my life who can’t see past the fact that I’m heavy…

Rant #1 - I have a close family friend who is a high-powered exec at a really big corporation. Early in my career, I turned to this person for guidance and mentoring. For some reason, he would basically ignore my insights into how the Internet might impact his business and instead made several comments about my weight. Needless to say, I am not going to this person for business advice any more, and I refuse to forgive him until he apologizes for his remarks. This guy had the freaking gall to tell me several years ago that I wouldn’t be successful in business because the business world discriminates against fat people. I’ll remember that when I retire at 35.

Rant #2 - My grandfather is the same way. He makes comments about my weight in front of my extended family whenever I see him. Thankfully, that is not very often (Thanksgiving, Christmas, maybe once or twice during the summer). I’m really upset that I have to essentially ignore my one remaining grandparent because he’s such an insensitive ass.

Rant #3 - So why am I on a diet? Why am I wasting hours every week going to an overpriced gym, lifting heavy things and running around in circles? I don’t do it for my health. I do it to get the assholes off my back about my weight. I do it so that women won’t ignore me when I try to strike up a conversation in a bar. I do it because our society is hung up on looks. Depresses me every time I think about it…

Okay, I’m done ranting now. I feel much better.

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Well, yeah! For one, you’re losing weight too quickly. The medically recommended rate is no more than 2 or so pounds per week. At this rate, you should have only lost 5 lbs so far.

That aside, what’s your plan for when you get off this diet? Or, are you planning to keep this up forever? Losing weight’s fine & dandy, but it’s more painful(IMHO) to lose it then gain it back than not to lose it, or to lose & keep off a lesser amount.

What works is lifestyle changes. Change your habits & way of looking at food. That’ll take weight off & keep it off.

Anyway, back to the OP… My mother’s quite the opposite. She’s more of a “you’re not eating enough” type, even when I was 270 lbs. The whole family’s that way, actually. I only lost serious weight when I moved out of town.

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let me get this straight:

You’re a teenager who has already been diagnosed and treated for an eating disorder and your mother is on your case for “being fat”???

You’re still growing. as long as your Doctor is not telling you to loose weight, everybody else should keep their opinions to themselves.

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I realize that you may have started this thread as a mini-rant against your mom’s diet plans for you. I also realize that you didn’t expect the discussion to take such a serious turn. The fact remains, though, that this is a serious issue.

When I was in my mid-teens, I had a friend named Dina. She worked on the school newspaper with me, and she was probably one of the most beautiful people I’ve ever known. Beautiful face, beautiful hair, great body…she was a real knockout. However, she, like her mother, had a predisposition towards chubbiness. Not obesity, just a little weight around the hips and the seat where women are supposed to have it.

Dina’s mom made her life a living hell. From the time she was 10 years old until she left for college, Dina’s mom had her on a strict diet of one kind or another. Because her mother had issues with her own natural body type and weight, Dina was forced into a lifestyle she wouldn’t have chosen for herself. If she chose to indulge in a treat at dessert or a second helping at dinner, her mother gave her such hell about calories, fat, and her looks that Dina eventually gave up trying to please herself at all, just to keep her mom off of her back.

Dina’s mother was the school newspaper advisor, and I was able to see firsthand the way her mom treated her. At class parties, the moment Dina made a move for the snacks, her mom would scold her in front of the whole class, saying “Don’t eat that! You’ll just get fat again!”

Dina eventually sought treatment for anorexia, which I firmly believe (as does she) she was driven into by her mother’s obsession about weight loss and dieting. Dina’s mom didn’t have the willpower to lose weight, so she forced the objective upon her daughter with near catastophic results.

BornDodgy, I’ve presented an extreme case here, a case that is probably much more severe that what you’re going through. But to me, it doesn’t sound like you’re in a very healthy situation either. You mentioned that you sought treatment for bulemia, which concerns me, but it sounds like you’re doing better now. However, your mom’s continued pressure about dieting and weight isn’t healthy for either of you. It may seem like an annoyance now, but it could become a serious issue later on. Have the two of you considered counseling sessions together?

I’m not a therapist or a dietician. I’m just someone who has seen a situation like this get out of hand. I hope you take these comments in the spirit in which they were intended. Good luck.

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No, I don’t think that’s true. I am hardly athletic, though fairly active what with playing with my 4 young children who have boundless energy. However, the meals I have been known to eat have been defined by some as “large”, including (but not limited to):
1 - 1.5 lbs of spaghetti + a few meatballs and sausages
The occaisional stack of 12 - 15 pancakes, with some ham/bacon on the side
One whole chicken (don’t know the weight) + mashed potatoes and corn
I’m starting to slow down though. The other night I had 1.5 18-oz steaks (rare), two potatoes, a salad, about 10 steamed clams, a shrimp cocktail, a bowl of clam chowder, a smoked-salmon appetizer on bread, and a bit of deep-fried calamari, but didn’t have room for dessert…

6’2" tall, 195lbs, size 34 waist. eat your heart out :slight_smile:

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Illnesses the dodgy girl has had and has been in therapy for:
moderate depression
anxiety attacks
self mutilation (e.g: cutting)

Got rid of all of the above.

The register of mental illnesses says that something is bulimia when you have a toilet relationship for over 2 months. Mine lasted only 1 month. I was therefor never diagnosed with an eating disorder.

Lucky bastard that I am I got out of the depression and am even off of the meds - no more anxiety attacks, not any scars from the self inflicted wounds.

Fairly normal healthy teen now.
Pretty outgoing with warped humor.
:wink:

This is beginning to be depressing.
Please dont ask about thed self mutiltion guys… just give it in in a search engine if you want to know about it but dont expect me to explain that shit.
PS: Mom is starting a therapy after I finish mine. We cant afford therapy for two familymembers at the same time… and it would be a disaster if we had it together LOL
I am only coming for “check ups” now anyways.

2000 is the year… hehe… :slight_smile:

So, as many of us here seem to have fam, friends, co workers and bosses who care about weight too much, what about a little cyber feast?

Munches on a boost bar and grabs a grape with the other hand