Anecdote: a female friend of mine related to me a story of the time she was at a county fair and looking at the roosters. One had an especially resplendent comb. Intending to say “Look at that cock’s comb!” she blurted out “Look at that rooster’s cock!” to the enjoyment of those in the vicinity.
Why is it that no word for the female sexual anatomy has any positive connotation? Even the innocent word “pussy” is considered bad, especially when applied to a male. And what about the female C word and T word?
I used to say “puss-puss” for one girl friend who hated “honey pot”. My Thai wife and her female friends call each other “hee”, the Thai word for vagina (I guess, I don’t know if it is a ‘proper’ word or slang).
“Pussy” can have positive* and negative connotations. And most words for any sexual anatomy, male or female, have mostly negative ones. The main one I think often has positive connotations is “balls” as a synonym for courage (although balls can also be negative).
Don’t know about positive, exactly, but the Swedes have recently come up with “snippa” - a completely neutral, innocent, child-friendly word for vagina. For the longest time, boys have had an equally innocent word for their genitals - “snopp” - and now girls have one, too. 'S all good.
Oh and come to think of it, I seem to recall from reading Hans Peter Duerr many moons ago that among Romani women, at least, the Romani word for vagina can have positive connotations of courage, bravery, daring etc., much as in American English’s “you don’t have the balls to” so-and-so, or “check out the balls on this dude.”
If I’m talking to someone I’m having sex with, and we are talking about sexual things, then “cock” and “cunt” are the only appropriate words and they have no negative connotation in that context. Any other word seems silly and juvenile or clinical and distancing.