Time helps. Personally, I am just so glad to be away…
He has to live with his dumbass self forever. He wronged me, but I am ok now. My life is ok. He is a dipshit. He will always be a dipshit. He gets more dipshitty as time goes on, I think. But, I don’t have to clean up his dipshit messes (mostly). And he has to be himself for the rest of his life. I think I came out ahead, regardless of the crap.
By the time I filed for a divorce I was (mostly) done being mad. It just takes SO much energy to stay mad. Why let them continue to take up that space in your life? I’m not saying I don’t have my flareups, but mostly it’s a wistful regret when I see someone doing/having what I had hoped for.
While you’re in the heat of things, I would say realize when they are just trying to get a reaction, and don’t let them have the satisfaction.
I’ve just gone through this and the best advice I can give, get out and do something. It doesn’t matter what it is, but I would suggest that you do something that you’ve always wanted to do but never got the chance because you were married. Want to see some place, then go, want to try a new activity, then do it.
If you don’t have to deal with your ex much then it will help, but if you’re like me and have kids it makes it worse. You’ll learn to get over it, though it’s damn hard, especially at first. With a six year relationship and two kids it took me 6-7 months to get over most of it, after 8 the majority of it’s gone.
So go do something that you want to do, it’ll help.