I heard a great story this weekend, a story from Buddha and one of his resolutions of anger and resentment. He basically said: when someone is making you angry and you feel you may begin to harbor a resentment, act as if the anger is an unwanted gift, and kindly return it.
Although simple and not exactly everyday practical - I try to not harbor anger for anyone, or at very least I try not to be so angry that I build a resentment. But if we are being real and true to the nature of this message board, I must say I am not perfect in dealing with the mundane anger that can form into a resentment.
I believe resentments can act like water over stone. Usually they go right over it, and flow on past, but over time the water can get into the cracks and eventually split it appart. I think this happens with a lot of marriages these last few decades, and I believe that if resentments and anger were managed correctly, divorce rates would plummet. That is a discussion for another time.
So on the topic of anger and resentments; how do you deal with them and how do you avoid them?