I have an 11" scar on my left knee from surgery back when I was 13…you can still see the 44 pairs of stitch marks on them as tiny white bumps. In school, everyone was interested in my scar. The girls always asked what happened and I tell them it’s related to football and skiing related injuries (about 80% of contributing factors). The scar is also about an inch wide and shiny with no hair growing from it and one kid had the bright idea of pushing both sides my skin surrounding the scar together and it looked like a pair of labia. After that moment of discovery, I practically had every curious 13 year old poking their fingers in my “labia” on my knee…ah, fun times. :rolleyes:
My scar nowadays is regarded as “somewhat” sexy. The nerves on it are funky because when I touch the scar, it feels like I’m touching the opposite side of my knee, about 4 inches away…ah, more fun times. :rolleyes:
Like anything else, my dear, it’s how you wear it. Porcelain perfect skin with a deep red facial scar, even a jagged one, can bestow upon its wearer all of the mystique and beauty of a cracked china doll if the wearer act oblivious to its presence. Definitely hits my “survivor” button as was mentioned earlier. Try covering it up with makeup or other means and all that will tell me is that you’re insecure, and that trait ALWAYS leads to a relationship disaster evenwith “just friends” relationships.
I don’t personally find guys with scars “sexy” … not that it’d be wrong if I did … but I am more likely to take an interest in them, initially, as a person.
Actually I’ve got two long scars and I’ve had mixed reactions to them. One was from jumping over a fence in grade school and breaking my arm. I got over 20 stitches and for years people thought I’d been in a knife fight. The second is across my waist, where I had gall bladder surgery a few years back (my husband and I call this my “gutted like a trout” scar). I was more self-conscious about them when I was younger, but now, as Inigo says, I just wear them like I don’t even notice them. 'Cause truth be told, they’re such a part of me I can’t imagine being me without them.
The guys who would consider me not worth their time because I was scarred, actually did me a huge favor. I suspect it works the same way when it’s the guy who’s scarred as well. Who wants to waste time on someone who only considers the blandly flawless as worth dating?
Not true as a universal rule. Haven’t you browsed the internet enough yet to realize that someone has a fetish for any possible look?
BoringMom has several cool scars. They act as remembrances of things past. Remember kids, just because you tie a cape around your neck, does not mean you can fly like Superman, and coffee tables are harder than foreheads.
Well, I’ve never seen a scar on a man that was appealing in any way. Not a deal breaker, but it sure doesn’t turn my crank.
However, I was at a formal affair once, and there was a beautiful young woman. She had her hair sweapt up, and was wearing a long, body skimming gown. She had a slim, lovely figure and was really stunning. When she turned around, the gown was totally backless, almost to her tailbone. She had an inch wide scar going up the entire length of her spine. Apart from that her back skin was flawless. I don’t know why, but the scar made her even more beautiful. It was like she was a perfect person, but with one huge flaw.
Depends on the woman, I think. I mean, if Audrey Hepburn had a scar running down half of her face, breaking only where it crossed a now-milky eye, I’d still think she was cute. (Of course, Audrey Hepburn would still be cute if she was a brain in a jar.)
I wouldn’t say I have a fetish for scars but I definately find them attractive on women, as long as they’re not too disfiguring. I saw a girl on a bus a few years ago who was really good looking but looked like she’d been attacked by a dog or something. Think an attractive face but with lines on it. Made her look interesting and cute.
My girlfriend has a Harrison Ford type scar on her chin that adds to the character on her face and doesn’t detract from her cuteness at all.
I’m thinking that it would be hard to make much headway with an eyebrow or (small) forehead scar, since a fairly large percentage of people have them from walking facefirst into the corners of dining room tables as toddlers.
But what if a guy pulled a knife to try to mug you, and another guy steps in to save you, suffering a knife wound? Would the scar still be a turnoff?
What if he had done it for another woman before ever meeting you?
FWIW, being the oldest in my family, my sisters learned to appreciate a scar here and there as a sign that a boy became a man. Guys do stupid shit to become men. Or to prove themselves as such to the pack. Nature, don’t fight it.
Depends on the scar IME; the chicks seem to dig the scars on my torso (a few neat knife scars and a fat, protruding one made by a broken bottle) but they don’t quite like the ones on my arms (mostly cigarette burns). I’ve never had comments on the scar on my eyebrow and most people don’t notice that my nose is slightly askew unless I point it out (it was kicked in a few years back).
I really couldn’t say why anyone would find scars attractive or sexy; could it be something built into women so they are more likely to be end up with someone who can protect them? If that’s the case, shouldn’t they be looking for someone sans scars? I’m not too fond of mine, at any rate, and am probably going to get laser surgery to get rid of the cigarette burn scars at the very least; they’re absolutely hideous and bring back memories.
