I have a small 2.4-inch discoloration (you can hardly call it a scar) on my left leg. It runs in the form of (what appears to be) a perfect geometric straight line, right along my calf. When viewed in a particular light with a certain kind of shade, it looks kinda cool. I don’t know why exactly, but even everyone else says so. Sorta like the stripes on a tiger.
Quite often, if I’m wearing shorts in a club (like I was this hot summer) I’ve even had girls come up to me and ask me about it. They get really playful and flirt. Once I actually asked a girl what she liked so much about it. She said that she really digs scars. I ask why girls are so interested in them. She says it’s because apparently, so long as the scars are not too hideous, they tend to add character to the person who owns it – like a badge or a display that says something about the person (yeah, like how they always get into car crashes, I thought). Apparently scars have a mystical beauty of their own. It seems I have been left out of the loop.
Well Ladies, describe to me what you find so attractive (if at all you do find them attractive) about scars. Tell me what is so cool about having a small slit or a large gash somewhere on a guy’s body that gets your juices running.
There are plenty of desperate men who are waiting to slash themselves on your reply.
I think most of the appeal is that they’re distinctive. They can make an otherwise average-looking guy look a little different from the other average-looking guys.
Also, it’s a good conversation starter if you want to talk to a guy. I think “hey, how’d you get that scar?” is a better pick-up line than something like, “nice shirt”. It’s an instant conversation, basically.
The best scar I ever had (which, unfortunately, healed completely away), I received in the stupidest way. It was about 3/4 of an inch or so, perpendicular to my eyebrow. Looked like I’d been in a hockey fight or something. Which, of course, is nowhere near the truth; I actually bonked myself in the head with pliers taking the staples out of a new piece of furniture. But for a while there, I looked dangerous.
I’ve heard good things about my scars, primarily that they make me look tough. I’m glad I have my share of them. But what about lesser marks of injury? I’m always getting bruises and burns around my neck, and my nose has obviously been broken (though, actually, people always asked me if I broke it before I actually did). Are those things attractive, too?
I don’t think a scar on a leg would do much for me. A shoulder scar or something like that could give a sort of “bad boy sexy” impression.
But if nothing else, it’s a good conversation starter. If I want to talk to you because I think you’re hot for other reasons, I might use the scar as a way to start talking to you and ask you about yourself.
And then if I really think you’re hot, I’ll probably coo over whatever you tell me anyway. So it may be completely unrelated to your scarring, or lack thereof.
[sub]Wow, I just made myself sound horribly girly. HELP! Someone start talking to me about cars and football![/sub]
I’m a chick and I can’t say that I particularly “dig” scars but I don’t have anything against them.
So how do guys feel about scars on chicks? I have about a 3 inch scar below my right knee. It’s not a surgery scar, I just cut myself on glass door. Would it be more interesting if I had a better story for it? Should I say that I roundhouse kicked a mugger with a knife and he sliced my leg as he fell or is that too butch?
I had a friend who was worried about a scar on her otherwise beautiful legs. I told her she had better things to worry about. Guys aren’t so picky. If you’re a hot babe, a scar isn’t going to turn anyone away.
I agree with scout1222; it’s a nice intro line if you’re interested in someone.
I have lots of scars. It’s never helped me with the ladies in the slightest. The fact that many of the more obvious ones are burn scars probably has something to do with that. Chicks definitely do not dig those (at least, none of the ones I’ve ever met).
My wife says the Official Psychologist Theory is that scars communicate that you have survived hardship - therefore children you produce would more likely be sturdy survivors themselves. So you’re supposed to find scars attractive (so long as your reptile brain doesn’t confuse the scar with a present unhealthy state - scars that look like you’re “all better now” are going to knock 'em dead where scars that scream “I’m diseased!” won’t so much).
I play hockey and have for 20 years so I’ve got my share of scars but I’m constantly covered with bruises. Most of them are on my ribs, upper arms and legs so they don’t get seen very often however last year I got hit in the throat with a stick. A nice gash and a huge bruise that extended from my chin to my chest and covered the entire front of my neck. Turned all purple and yellow too. I was amazed how many girls came up and asked how it happened and how many guys would shy away from me when I walked up. Made me look like a total bad ass for almost a month but it never hurt at all.
I have a thin slice missing from my right eyebrow … and I haven’t even had a guy ask me about it, let alone tell me he digs chicks with scars.
Of course, I’d probably lie and say I was in some sort of fight, rather than tell him that it involved an eyebrow ring and pulling my shirt off too fast.
It actually hurt a lot less than you think it did.
My ex was a schizophrenic. He liked to give himself scars. On his forearm, he had two huge round scars from when he put a butcher knife on a stove, then slapped it on his arm. I thought that was the stupidest thing I’d ever heard of someone doing. Did I mention he did it for FUN? So no, I don’t like scars, unless there’s a decent ACCIDENT story behind them.
Oh - and he also had a checkerboard pattern on his other forearm, which he did after I dumped him. That was REAL fucking cute. He actually took the time to take apart the kind of razor you shave your legs with to do this.
Scars on guys are sexy, scars on chicks are not. It’s unfair, but true.
I really do think some men expect us to keep our porcelain perfect skin in it’s youthful perfect state forever. It’s unfortunate that age and scarring don’t make us more “distinctive.”
Y’see, most guys think the truth would be sexy as hell. Just tell them you were drunk at a concert when you did it.
Or better yet, you removed it with your tongue.
Personally, I’m not an expert on this topic–my nose is pretty crooked from being broken a few times and it really hasn’t helped me too much with the opposite sex.
As for scars on women…depends, really. Kinda like with guys, I’d think. On some, it works, on some it doesn’t. Of course, I’m biased towards distinctive looking women. If I saw a girl with an eyepatch, a parrot, a peg leg and a big scar on her right arm, I’d probably think she was righteously hawt.
I have a 1/2 inch long scar on my cheek that somewhat resembles a duelling scar (girls kinda like it). I got it learning not to piss of the cat when I was a toddler. When I was 13 I tried to convince a girl that I got it in a knife fight. She was kind enough to not laugh in my face.
