Ferret Herder: Nifty link; thanks. From the link: “Well there is no ‘normal’ looking vagina; just like your face is different to almost everyone in the world so is your vagina.”
This hits home for me, as my mother suffered, from early childhood, from a terribly morbid hatred of her own genitals. She felt they were ugly, distorted, bloated, etc. (I do not know the details, but guess she simply had prominent labia.) It affected her life terribly; it undermined her sexuality, and, in the end, was a major influence on her suicide.
So, yes, for God’s sake: no one should be judgemental about the appearance of their genitals!
(“Anyone who believes all men are created equal has never taken a shower in the army with thirty other guys.”)
Because ambiguities like that make people wonder how you can pee with a tampon in, that’s why. Or it makes guys wonder why a finger in the vagina is fine, a finger on the clit is fine, but women who are prone to UTIs may go whoawhoaWHOA if you try to slide a finger from the vagina and drag it along the way to the clitoris. No encouraging anything getting up into the urethra, plz thx.
I found this out about two weeks ago. I guess I’m that guy you can all point and laugh at…
My girlfriend looked at me with shock and disgust. Wtf? I’m not a doctor; I barely know how my own anatomy works, when would I have gotten an in depth look at female urination? I thought there was just the one omni-hole, and the part at the top was…iunno, a landing strip? Pheromone satchel? I never bothered to think about it!
Then she laughed, and responded with, “FFS! You have a master’s degree; how are you so dumb?”
In the interest of education we must start a campaign to get women to squat and urinate over the face of men so they can clearly see the urethra at work.
I assumed I was peeing out of my clitoris, somehow, until I was about 12. The urethra isn’t really easily visible, and I knew it was coming out somewhere in front of the vagina proper.
In some female animals, such as horses, this is the normal configuration (urethra exits into the opening of the vagina). To the casual observer, it looks like “hole urine comes out of” == “hole penis goes into.” A man could be forgiven his ignorance if this were the primary source of his understanding of female urogenital anatomy.
As a professional, I can tell you that the urethra can be hard to find in a well lighted room, with an assistant helping you spread everything and absolutely zero interest in any other contact with the subjects genitals.
This post makes me feel so much better at my inability to find it, despite many attempts and years of research. At least I found out where the clitoris was, on my 3rd try. And it worked as the literature (“The Joy of Sex” et al.) described.
