I can identify with Elizabeth Becton, although I would never be that rude about it.
My first name is Jaclyn. My whole life, that’s what my family called me, and to me, that’s my name. “Jackie” is not my name, and yet that’s what people always call me. This kind of conversation is quite common:
Me: Hello, I’m Jaclyn LastName.
Them: Nice to meet you, Jackie.
Me: It’s Jaclyn, actually.
It really pisses me off - why does everyone assume I want a nickname? For me, I call people the same way they introduce themselves. If a woman introduces herself as Jennifer, then that’s what I will call her until told otherwise - I don’t automatically assume that she wants to be called Jen or Jenny.
I used to be shy about correcting people because I felt like I was being rude. If someone asked me what I wanted to be called, I’d tell them, but otherwise say nothing. When I started dating my husband, he encouraged me to be more direct. In fact, he would often correct people for me, so I started doing the corrections myself in order to get him to stop.
It happens in work emails all the time. I work in a small office where everyone knows what I want to be called, but I often deal with people at other companies/organizations, and I frequently get emails calling me “Jackie.” So I reply, “It’s not a big deal, but I prefer to go by Jaclyn.”
The other thing is misspelling. For some reason, this has only happened in the last 5 years, but it seems about half the times I get an email/letter from someone, it is spelled “Jacyln.” I can only assume it’s some kind of typing thing, similar to people typing “teh” instead of “the.”
The first time it happened, I worked in an office where someone typed up the phone extension list and typed my name as Jacyln. I figured it was just at typo, but then I actually started noticing that handwritten notes from other employees were spelling it that way too. Like I’d find a post-it note on my monitor, “Jacyln, can you please take care of the Penske file,” etc. I couldn’t believe that they actually seemed to think my name was spelled that way. How would you even pronounce it?