Even if a full contact surrogate could be found (which I think is doubtful), I doubt that tantric sex lessons would count as any kind of legitimate clinical “therapy.”
I read through parts of that and didn’t see this, but how exactly is this not prostitution?
I know someone back home who does this. He cuts hair as a real business, and offers tantric therapy as a side business. It’s not prostitution for him, because he doesn’t charge a fee. You just pay him what you feel that the session was worth. However, this might have been a ruse to get the young handsome guy in bed. FWIW, I saw him advertise a couple of times in some local gay messageboards/Yahoo groups.
Do most “sex therapists” have sex with their clients? No. Most self-declared “sex therapists” try to approach sexual problems and stumbling blocks from a psychological perspective. Most of them deal with couples and offer suggestions, compromises, etc. So when you hear the term “sex therapist,” it usually isn’t any more exciting than sitting in a room with a psychologist and talking about sexual problems - maybe with some sort of sex products to take home and try.
That said, sexual surrogates DO exist, but they’re not what you’re most likely referring to when you use the word “sex therapist.” The legitimate ones - as opposed to glorified escorts - are utilized for extreme cases. There was a recurring character on Boston Legal who was a sexual surrogate and took a very serious approach to helping a somewhat mentally disturbed man whose closest companion was a life-sized doll. It isn’t unlike phobia therapy; slowly exposing your patient to the circumstances that create anxiety. Little known fact; your body starts losing its ability to remain anxious in most situations within 20 minutes, which is why a lot of psychologists make you look at a picture of a spider until your body gives up freaking out over it.
In short, legitimate sexual surrogates do exist, but they’re rare and a legal gray area. If you’re deathly afraid of women or have a psychological block against sex that greatly impairs your sex life, it might be beneficial to see one. If you have issues with premature ejaculation, a sex therapist can give you exercises to help you with control. If you want to learn the Kama Sutra, however, you’d be better off going to the Bunny Ranch.
Sorry, but if your “session” has a “happy ending” then I have a hard time viewing the “provider” of service as a “therapist”. 
I recall an episode of COPS where an undercover officer picked up a young freelance therapist on the roadside and gave her a ride. She quickly offered to have sex with the officer gratis because she could instantly feel a connection, and simply requested he loan her some money, completely unrelated to the sex act, to cover some unspecified necessities of hers.
She was arrested along with the other hookers.
Hi Noblebaron.
This is a response to your question: do sex therapists have sex with you.
Legitimate sex therapists are licensed mental health professionals who are certified by
a national organization such as AASECT. I am a Sex Therapy Diplomate(AASECT), a licensed psychologist and am forbidden by law and ethics to engage in sexual contact with my patients. I would very promptly lose my license and certification and, in some states, might land in jail.
There are non legitimate “Sex Therapists” in some areas not regulated who may or may not engage with you sexually. There are allied professions: Sexual Surrogates, and Sexological
Body workers who are trained and certified and who may touch you in sexual ways, although their legality is questionable in some states. There are also teachers of Tantra
some of whom are certified professionals and some who my operate without benefit
of license or legitimate certification. You can do web searches for certifying organizations.
If your “sex therapist” is not licensed or certified by a legitimate national organization, then practice due diligence and caution.
Ron Feintech, PhD
Sex Therapy Diplomate, AASECT
DrRon, anybody with good information is welcome on the Dope. Thanks for a knowledgeable response.
But noblebaron started this thread in 2007 and hasn’t posted here since 2008. That’s the problem with so-called zombie threads. The information isn’t likely to get to the person who requested it.
Yeah, sex between a client and a “legitimate sex therapists [that] are licensed mental health professionals” can be viewed by the courts as “non-consensual” … thus subject to first-degree rape charges. So that would be one hell of a lot of time in jail.
Cracked did an article on this last month:
How about a cite for that?
Isn’t the Helen Hunt film “The Sessions” based on a true incidence of this?
With you? Not in 2007 and not now. I suggest you expand your requirements for a girlfriend and become less of a guy without a girlfriend. Fake it 'til you make it.
Yes, it is. No zombies were used in the film’s production, either. :o
Yeah I would like to see a cite too. I know in my state the victim would have to have a mental defect which would keep them from understanding the nature of the act. Just going to a therapist does not come remotely close to that
It’s not rape, but it is illegal. Here’s a CA cite: Therapy Never Includes Sexual Behavior - California Department of Consumer Affairs
It’s a crime in GA as well; over the years I had three coworkers who were charged with having sex with their patients. IIRC it fell under sexual exploitation.
So you basically need a professional hooker right? Or a kinky g/f?
That Cracked article cited by Mister Rik said:
The quote is from a guy who wrote a book on the subject, which may be worthwhile. OTOH, the guy is a Cracked editor…
I am not exactly sure about what you (OP) are looking for. You are speaking about two opposite poles in your original message. Tantric Sex is a whole nother animal, light years removed from sex therapy.
At first, it is best studied in books, not just chatted about with folks who have zero knowledge but like the terminology because the word “sex” is used. The first thing might be to acquire a right understanding of what it is and what it requires, its history, what its goals, aims and purposes might be. As far as my knowledge goes, this is in no way a “profession”, but a means to an end. One’s tantra partner should be chosen very carefully. Not in the Yellow Pages.
As far as assistance in learning about tantra, what you should be looking for is what is called in the trade “a school” where tantric sex may be an option to be studied, learnt about and perhaps practised if you find an adequate partner, someone equally dedicated.
If you PM me, I might be able to recommend a book which I myself consider the definitive work on this subject. Others’ mileage may vary. Saludos
Do zombies have sex with you?