Do some Mothers just not hear the babies cry?

[Excalibre]

@Dangerosa

And someday, fessie, your kids will be just a little older, and you’ll have said four times before leaving the house “everyone go potty, everyone get a snack, everyone get a drink.” And everyone will have said they are fine. And you’ll have snacks and water in the car (because you will have learned that just because they are fine now, doesn’t mean five minutes from now it won’t be different). And you’ll run into the store as fast as you can on your way somewhere and one of your kids will start whining “I’m hungry.” And you will think “I fed you four minutes before we left, you are not hungry, you will not starve to death for the five minutes we are in the store” and you’ll say "As soon as we get back into the car, sweetems, momma has goldfish crackers for you. But this will not stop the “I’m hungry. I’m hungry.” And some stranger will throw angry looks your direction since you are obviously starving your children. And when you get to the car and hand over the little tupperware of goldfish crackers, your darling child will start pelting you with them, since they really weren’t hungry to start with and you’ll have to remind yourself that you do love your children and its just a bad day and maybe your husband will come home early and you can sit in the bathtub.

Well meaning strangers are nice, but sometimes my kid’s sippy cup is in my purse and I’m not handing it over because I’ve been pelted in the head with it when I give into the water plea twice today. Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, I’m a mom; fool me three times and your sippy cup goes in my purse and you can scream your head off.

And lord knows you don’t want to get one of those kids who needs to tour every public restroom with “I haffa go potty!” and then doesn’t because they really just wanted to make sure this one had a toilet in it just like the last 389 public bathrooms you’ve stopped in this week. Because your child won’t die of thirst or hunger in four minutes, but this time they might really have to go potty.

See, the glazed look and the “It’s all worth it though” are what puzzle me. Stories like these are what make me think, “You know, as a society, we’re way too hard on parents who commit infanticide.”

I’m gonna face facts and acknowledge that I’m not cut out to be a parent.

[fessie]

So true, Excalibre! I have thought that same thing over & over! The question isn’t why do some parents kill their young, it’s why more of them don’t! There are times when you just want to throw them out the window. Mine were mostly a PITA for the first nine months.

But the “it’s worth it” thing is still true. The parent-child bond is like nothing else, it’s impossible to make comparisons to any other relationship or experience. Kind of like describing sight to a blind person.

And if you’ve never felt it, you can’t miss it - but once you have, there’s no going back. Before kids, I was fine with not having them. Now, if something happened to mine, that would be the end of me.