Do women steal their friend's boyfriends more often than men steal friend's GFs?

[Maggie_the_Ocelot]

Wait - are we talking about dating your friend’s exes after they’ve broken up for other reasons, or are we talking about using your (masculine or feminine) wiles to induce the breakup?

Because I see no problem with the former, and have never understood why some people are so adamant about it. I even had one friend who was dating my ex ask me to promise her that if they ever broke up I wouldn’t hook up with him again. WTF? If he’s single, he’s single, and at that point you have zero control over where he puts his boything.

However, actually inducing a breakup is bad form, though (again IMO) less so than boffing your friend’s sweetie behind their back.

As far as gender discrepancy in poaching over either the short or long term - I’ve never noticed one.

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@BIG_BAD_DAD

[COLOR=“red”][COLOR=“DarkOrange”]A MALE FRIEND IS TRUE TILL DEATH. HE WOULD NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT LOOKNG AT HIS FRIENDS GIRL LET ALONE STEAL HER AWAY. IF HE DID IT WAS CAUSE FOR A GOOD ASS WHOOPING.NOW WOMEN ON THE OTHER HAND I HAVE FOUND OUT RECENTLY HAVE A DIFFERENT WAY OF LOOKING AT THIS. THEY DON’T HAVE THE SAME MORALS AS MEN. WHAT A SHAME THAT THERE IS A DOUBLE STANDARD FOR THIS.[/COLOR][/COLOR]

Thank you for making my day

[heatmiserfl]

@Sublight

There’s also the other side to this:

Are men more likely to screw around (or try to/want to) with their GF’s friends than woman are with their BF’s frends?

BINGO! I was looking to see if someone would say this. In other words, is it that the men are more responsive to poaching?

[BigT]

I only have one experience in this to relate: my ex wound up sleeping with her friend’s boyfriend. However, it was quite clear that he initiated entirely. Sure, she chose to go along with it, but he was definitely the one pressing it. He even got them a motel to spend the night in. And I believe she was drunk. (And, no, we weren’t together at the time, though we had rekindled our longtime friendship, although that was a trying time for it.)

Just thought I’d throw that out there–y’all can do the analysis.

ETA: Guy was recently back from being in the army, and his girlfriend was away for some other reason.

[Superhal]

The only difference between cheating and poaching is point of view.

[lindsaybluth]

@acsenray

@lindsaybluth

I still don’t know why she had any right to be angry

Who needs a right to be angry when the person you love leaves you for a friend?

I guess because nobody had any idea; it wasn’t intentional. They had been friends for years (all the friends had been within the group) but had only been dating very casually for weeks. Her friends expressed shock at her reaction; she had apparently been harboring it in secret. Nobody said love had to be rational, but then again I never understood why someone would love someone who didn’t love them in return. For me, it always had to be reciprocated.

[Mister_Rik]

@lindsaybluth

Nobody said love had to be rational, but then again I never understood why someone would love someone who didn’t love them in return. For me, it always had to be reciprocated.

To love somebody
Who doesn’t love you
Is like going to a temple
And worshipping the behind
Of a wooden statue
Of a hungry devil

– Lady Kasa Takamochi (eighth-century Japanese poet)

[Acsenray]

@lindsaybluth

Nobody said love had to be rational, but then again I never understood why someone would love someone who didn’t love them in return. For me, it always had to be reciprocated.

The vast majority of love is unreciprocated. That’s the essence of what makes love interesting and the subject of stories, music, and poetry.

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@Mister_Rik

@lindsaybluth

Nobody said love had to be rational, but then again I never understood why someone would love someone who didn’t love them in return. For me, it always had to be reciprocated.

To love somebody
Who doesn’t love you
Is like going to a temple
And worshipping the behind
Of a wooden statue
Of a hungry devil

– Lady Kasa Takamochi (eighth-century Japanese poet)

Hmmmmm…

Talk about being lost in translation.

[lindsaybluth]

@acsenray

@lindsaybluth

Nobody said love had to be rational, but then again I never understood why someone would love someone who didn’t love them in return. For me, it always had to be reciprocated.

The vast majority of love is unreciprocated. That’s the essence of what makes love interesting and the subject of stories, music, and poetry.

I guess so. This statement brought me back to the memory of a high school boyfriend, who wrote me a poem about how he cared about me and later told me he loved me and couldn’t wait to sleep with me .

But I call that infatuation, not love.