ftg - despite the (IMO) unnecessarily snarky tone of many of your comments, I’ll respond simply to observe that any number of chokes and arm attacks, not to mention reversals, are available from the guard - i.e. while on the ground on your back. I guess I will have to take your word for it if you tell me that you rolled with a number of experienced BJJ guys, and they gave you no trouble when they had you in their guard.
Sure, wrestlers can hurt people. Especially in takedowns. Heck, dropping someone onto their head, shoulder, or back is going to inflict more damage than just about any punch or kick. Of course, most wrestlers I know didn’t train rolling on pavement or gravel… Moreover, in competition, wrestlers are aware that moves judged likely to injure an opponent earn them a quick DQ. To some extent, how you train affects how you fight.
Unlike you, I have considerable respect for the boxers I have worked with, both in terms of the ability to mete out and withstand punishment, as well as their mobility. It seems - at best - incongruous that you would have “some” respect for kickboxers, but not boxers. You might benefit from seeking more boxers to train with.
I maintain that in terms of fighting effectiveness, a grappling art must be judged on (at least) 3 criteria: 1) the ability to achieve superior position; 2) the ability to maintain that superior position; and 3) the ability to finish/incapacitate your opponent.
IMO&E, wrestling EXCELS in the first 2, but is severely lacking in the 3d. For that reason, a wrestler desiring to effectively defend himself will supplement his style with finishing moves from other systems. Sambo, BJJ. (Note that in my 3-part system, BJJ is better than wrestling at #3, but worse in #1. So a BJJ guy would do well to learn from a wrestler.)
Your post does support one other aspect of my experience - a significant percentage of wrestlers do seem to be cocky bastards.