Unless she was the ONLY person in the shot, your friend who deleted the pictures was completely out of line. It is ridiculous to think that a well-meaning friend trying to capture a special event on film should be expected to gain every single participant’s permission before keeping or sharing a photograph. If you don’t want to be photographed at a small, private lunch, then that’s reasonable. But expecting to not be photographed at a special event is not. In short, you’re asking others to put your irrational phobia of being photographed ahead of the guest of honor’s delight at having mementos of his/her special occasion. So get over yourself.
Besides, the double chin and belly roll that makes you cringe? Guess what? Everyone else is seeing it live, in all its glory. So until you can control your 3D image from being broadcast to everyone’s eyeballs, you aren’t really controlling anything. The only thing you’re really accomplishing is making yourself look unreasonable, vain and rather foolish.
Back to the OP, I don’t think I ever weighed in on the woman deleting the pictures. She was out of line. Mostly this is because she knew the pictures were being taken and didn’t object. If she poses, she shouldn’t be shocked to be in the pic.
However, this falls into the usual Miss Manners rule of “she’s rude to do it, but you are even ruder to point out her rudeness”. I’d just decline from taking her picture going forward and if you do get one of her delete it. Plus stop giving her the camera. But it’s not worth arguing with her about it.
I completely disagree. He asked her not to delete pictures, she agreed, and then she started deleting pictures. The OPer didn’t do ANYTHING even remotely rude.
Nah, I think she’s out of line regardless of who was in the photo. If you hate the picture, ASK the photographer not to post it. If you’re nice about it, it’s likely you’ll get your way anyway.
But destroying someone else’s intellectual property is just. not. cool.