Do you or would you help your partner with personal maintenance or beautification, such as dyeing hair, polishing nails, plucking hairs? Not if they needed help, necessarily, (although that would be kind) but just as a loving gesture. Or do you prefer that each of you take care of such things yourself?
I used to trim my ex’s hair and wax his back (both at his request). I didn’t mind it a bit.
Couldn’t have trimmed his toenails if I wanted to, though. Could have caught fish and hung from tree branches with those things. I think he was part eagle.
Yes. I also help him pick out clothes. I think of my husband as my grown up Ken doll. 
Fortunately he’s an even tempered Ken doll so he doesn’t complain.
I do.
I pluck my husband’s ear hairs. He has one in each ear that needs plucking every now and then.
I trim his eyebrows when he requests it, which is usually every couple of months.
I give him pedicures, every other month or so, more often in the summer when he’s wearing sandals. I shave the little hairs on the back of his neck in between haircuts. I shave his legs when he requests my assistance with that task, usually during the summer months when he’s riding alot.
That’s about it. He takes care of the rest himself and he certainly doesn’t need my help with most of those tasks, I just enjoy doing them. Especially pedicures. He gets spa-style pedicures from me that can last up to an hour. I do it because I do enjoy pampering him, but more than anything I can’t stand the sight of snaggle-footed men (or women) in open-toed shoes.
He’s shaved my legs for me a couple of times, that’s all. It was nice, but I prefer to maintain myself.
Miguel paints my nails. It started when I was waaay pregnant and couldn’t reach my toes. Now it’s a regular thing we both enjoy.
There’s not much to do for him other than the monthly head shave. He asked me to clip his toenails…once. :shudder:
My SO taught me to shave him (around the goatee). Not the day-to-day. Just the sometimes proper razor shave. We enjoyed it. And in return he would shave my…err…ahem…well you know. One beard for another. We enjoyed that too.
The day-to-day stuff, no. But looking-after-you grooming rituals…big yes.
Will you milk my pilonidal cyst?
oh yeah, I do as much as my S.O. will allow me to do, which isn’t that much, sadly. So, what psycat90 said. I thought all girls wanted to groom their SO’s !
I’m rather perfectionistic about grooming myself, so there isn’t a lot he could do , taht I wouldn’t rather do myself. The few times I let an ex dye my hair, it turned out too even (so, with too visible dark roots after a while).
But I’d like it if my SO would learn to give me proper pedicures. A regular pedicure would otherwise costs 35 bucks, so we’d save a lot of money.
I used to do the toenails, but I finally put my foot down. Fercrissakes.
I do help him straighten out his layered shirts. They get all twisty and goofy and bunchy and I have to help him get that all straight before he goes to work. No one has to straighten ME out when I layer. AND HE CALLS HIMSELF A MARINE!!??
I used to enjoy brushing my love’s hair. Gave her the occasional massage to, starting from the feet up. I was usually rewarded, but it wasn’t necessary.
I liked to shop w/ her sometimes and tell her what I though looked good on her, she mostly respected my taste.
No, thanks. When my husband had his removed, the doctor left the wound open to heal from the bottom up, and I was the one who cleaned and dressed it several times a day.
I remove my husband’s blackheads, zits, and ingrown hairs. I also try to pluck the hairs on his ears and between his eyebrows, but he usually won’t hold still for it.
Every now and then, I hand him the old dull pocket knife and he “skins” my back. It’s sort of like shaving, except that he’s removing a lot of dead flaky skin from my back. It feels great, and my back itches considerably less for some time afterwards.
Well, I pick the insects from his coat and eat them. Does that count?
There’s a lot of pampering going on in my house. Most of the time it’s me getting the pampering, but I will and do return the favor. I’ve got two guys to maintain (husband and best friend, aka “stunt hubby”). Lest you get the wrong idea, there’s no hanky-panky going on betwixt the three of us.
I give buzz cuts, clean the neck up between cuts, trim & pluck ear hair & eyebrows, trim nose hair, full-on pedicures (they will not cut my toenails). I’ll also trim fingernails for my husband- he hates to because it’s too “fiddly.” I’ll give them back rubs, and doctor achy muscles with Ben Gay & hit them with the Thumper. My husband won’t let me touch his zits, but best friend will. And he’ll do mine. When I get too uh, “bushy,” either one will give me a trim. I will trim the hubby’s nethers, but not best friend.
It’s good to be the goddess of the household.
I often wash my girlfriend’s back for her. When her hair was shorter, and she got a Mohawk for a sports tournament, I shaved her head around it. Now that her hair is longer, I like to wash her hair sometimes, and she does the same for me.
We often bathe together. Does that count?
Cut his hair (just a buzzcut), and as a reward, any zits I finds on his scalp, I gets to pop. I own the zits on his back, and to with the what I will.
He puts lotion on my back in winter, and takes care of the occassional zit in an awkward spot. I get them my ears, sometimes, and they’re just awful. I can’t seem to get at them and they hurt like hell. Luckily he keeps his nails fairly long.
Aww… I was gonna ask if showering together counts. I mean, we do soap each other up. When ACBG needs to play dress up he likes for me to pick out the appropriate tie to go with the suit. Since I was the one who made him go buy a couple of nice suits, dress shirts and ties, I guess it’s only fair. The man had one ratty old suit and tie when I met him. It’s just a good thing I came along is all I’m sayin’.
I sometimes have done the following:
Trim the back of his hair at the neckline with clippers (he does the rest himself)
Tell him if he missed shaving anywhere
Squeeze a zit on his back
Rub lotion on his feet and massage them
Wash his back in the shower
That’s all.
We wash each other’s back in the shower. It’s in there that I get the really bad pimples on his back and he helps me shave my legs.
I also tweeze his eyebrows. Not too much, just so he doesn’t have a unibrow and it isn’t too crazy on the sides.
He dyes my hair and waxes me when I don’t feel like shaving for a while.
Isn’t love grand?
I’ve given him a manicure or two (worst. cuticles. ever.) and pluck the occasional stray hair. I braid his hair for him if he’s going to work on the car or is taking the motorcycle. We pop each other’s zits, and wash each other in the shower. He trims my hair, unless I’m convenient to my sister (not often). Sometimes he has me shave missed spots for him. He usually applies the post-shower lotion on me, but seeing where that usually goes, I’m not sure if it counts as grooming. 