How much say does you SO have in how you groom “down there”? If you differ, are you willing to meet him halfway? (i.e. you like it bald, he likes “powermuff”, you compromise on a trim)
I consider myself quite liberal and open minded. I also have had my moments of crude truck driving mouth. But honestly, I find this post offensive and immature, and in my opinion, it also teeters on the edge of fetish-y and creepy----like, you are looking for some masturbation material.
I find your subject matter and communication style in general to be consistent with a teenaged boy.
At the risk of stooping to this level and replying in a manner that may get me banned, this will be my last post to you. I wish you luck and hope you learn how to communicate in a more adult way, as I am sure you are a kind person underneath this facade.
Lighten up, Francis.
We discuss all sorts of things on this board. If you can’t handle it, go somewhere else.
Zero.
I don’t tell him what to do with his hair, he doesn’t tell me what to do with mine. Although he has on occasion expressed preferences (he’d like me to keep my legs clean shaven more often, for example) how I wear (or don’t) the product of my hair follicles is entirely up to me. Likewise, what he does with his is up to him.
At the risk of ticking someone off, I didn’t find this particularly offensive - because I think the question is about interpersonal relationships, not specifically my (or anyone else’s) nether regions.
You’re spot-on, OP. It’s lovely when we agree, but if we don’t (different SOs, obviously) I’ll make an effort to move in his direction. At the end of the day, though, I’m the one who has to deal with it 24/7, and will tend to revert to my preference if it becomes uncomfortable.
Hmmm…I notice you are a male, and a teacher. Would you feel comfortable about your students knowing you defended this type of thread? How about your wife? I am not being snarky here—I am curious. Why not tell us all then, about your lovely wife’s poontang and how you two feel about her pubic hair? Don’t hold back–I am really wondering if you will lighten up as much as you tell me to do. Come on, spill it. Let’s hear all about Mrs Silenus’ vag! (Not trolling, so please don’t turn this on me…)
ITA that he shouldn’t have veto power! I asked because I prefer full bush on women, and my generation generally goes the exact opposite direction.
You’re silly.
Back on topic, neither my husband or I has particularly strong feelings (other than “groomed and not sweaty”) about pubic hair, although he’s occasionally assisted with the landscaping when he’s interested in a specific look. All part of a healthy, happy sex life.
Bite me. I defend any and all threads around here. We talk about anything and everything. Again, if you don’t like it, go the fuck away. The sooner the better.
Wild and wooley or hardwood floor, makes no nevermind to me.
After almost 2 months and 500+ posts I would think you would have a better feel for this place.
silenus will be back, I’m sure, to address your questions, but I know for a fact that he has read the dope while in school, and his students are aware of this participation here.
May I suggest you unbunch your panties and deal with this as a valid topic?
Back to the OP, I have never given maintenance suggestions or instructions to any SO I have ever been with. Their body, their call.
I’m sorry you feel the need to reply so aggressively and in such a personally attacking manner. I was being serious, wondering if this was a gender issue. I believe I asked you in a way that was marked by respectful confrontation. I am sorry you could not reply in a similar manner.
We don’t control each others folicals 
Although when he was starting to look pretty mangy from random hair loss when he was starting to go alopecia he did take my advice to just start shaving his head and body. Someone who was pretty much gorilla hairy losing random splorches of hair starts looking pretty nasty. He looked much better shaven. Now he has no hair at all and doesn’t have to shave. I am now jealous. If I could basically lose all the hair below my neckline I would be thrilled. Shaving body parts suck.
Popping in to make sure this thread is bookmarked.
But as a way to contribute even though I am not female, I can tell you that there are spas over here that advertise trimming ladies’ pubic hair into a heart shape. Genital topiary, so to speak.
When in a relationship (which I currently amn’t), I don’t prefer full bush on myself or my partner. It doesn’t have to be shaved or immaculately trimmed, but if I’m going to spend time down there then I’d rather not have to camp out in a bush. It’s not a dealbreaker though, not worth breaking up over. Just a preference. Less hair also means increased sensitivity, so that’s a plus.
I wouldn’t expect most modern people to put up with a full bush from themselves or a partner, this isn’t the 70s. But if I was with a guy who adamantly refused to shave, I’d tolerate it. It’s his hair, after all.
Okay, let’s stop the bickering in here and end the hijack.
Topics like this are on here all the time, I find nothing wrong with the OP.
Please continue with the topic and if anyone has any problems with anyone else, there is always the Pit.
Well I am not female, but I did remove all hair down there on the request of my partner. She prefers it like that and I don’t care either way so it was an easy choice.
It depends how it is asked for and by who.
Example one (real):
Guy who is was sleeping with once in a blue moon on a friends-with-benefits basis:
Him: “I don’t like the way your hair is down there. I don’t want to give you oral.”
Me: “Oh boo hoo hoo. You only do that once in a blue moon anyway. And, btw, you won’t be getting any oral from me then either.”
Him: “Oh wait…”
Example 2. (hypothetical):
Guy who I am in a loving relationship with:
Him: “Baby, when your hair is shaved/waxed/full bush/whatever, I really turns me on. Would you consider it?”
Me: “Yes, I’ll consider it.”
And I’d probably change it for him, at least for one try. Moreover, I’d probably get turned on myself by the new experience and by him being turned on. But you see the difference is between demanding something because someone feels they can tell me what my genital area ought to look like and asking something because they have a a personal preference.
In fact, it’s like all sexual acts. I’m willing to try out new things (within my personal limits) if my partner thinks they are exciting, but I won’t be ordered around or made to feel I’m not good enough if I don’t do/look like x.
I asked my SO what his preference was early in our sexual relationship, and I try to comply. Not because I’m his slave or anything, but just because I don’t have a strong preference, so *one *of us might as well appreciate the scenery.
Sometimes I’m just too lazy or tired in the shower though, and things get a little back to nature. He, not being an asshole, doesn’t give me any flak for it, but he may suggest we work a little grooming play into our sexy fun time. That works for me!
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My partners have never made any remarks re. that detail, but I don’t know whether it was because our preferences matched or because we weren’t together long enough. So long as they’re asking for something I’m ok with, I’ll do it; if they ask for something I never had any interest in getting (such as a landing strip or a piercing anywhere other than my ears), I won’t.
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