To me, that’s more appropriate than making a big stink about it in a thread, but that’s just how I feel. I have a dislike of public fights, for example.
I’ve had a couple of PMs and maybe a half-dozen initiating emails (by which I mean the sender was initiating contact; I can’t count the number of emails I’ve had from fellow Dopers, because I’ve gone on to form email relationships with them). I like it. There are a lot of people around here I like (if there weren’t, I wouldn’t be here), and the PMs and emails I’ve gotten have always been of a helpful, friendly nature.
Sure there are a few people around that I guess I’d rather not talk to, and if I got an email from one of them, I guess I’d ignore it or maybe email them back saying “no, thanks”. But mostly, I love Dopers, and am always happy to converse with one!
I’ve had a few people say nasty things in a thread then apologize via PM instead of apologizing in the thread. I’ve never known what to say in response to that.
That seems wrong to me. Why can’t they apologize in public, as they’ve been nasty in public? To each his own, I guess.
I wish someone would PM me. I get a little sad that a place I like and spend as much time on as the SDMB as I do, that I have never had an PM. Maybe I need to be more of a jerk.
I was thinking this, too. But then, OTOH, maybe they were thinking “I was already a jerk; I don’t need to compound that by drawing attention to myself by apologizing in the thread, and maybe appearing to be an attention whore, too”. I mean, if it were me, yeah, I’d apologize in the thread I was a jerk in, but there is another side to the coin, y’know?
I’ve been e-mailed by several Dopers in the year+ that I’ve been a member. Mostly, it was a pleasant experience. I even was able to send one some helpful information he needed, and he was able to help me improve the information for future use. I welcome any intelligent e-mail that isn’t hostile or spam.
Yes, that’s a valid interpretation to me too, now that I think about it.
I like getting PMs and emails. PMing me before emailing is a nice touch, and it makes sure I know to check the spam trap along with the inbox, but it isn’t required of anyone. And, yes, the email address I have configured here is the one I check these days, so I’m not going to get in trouble about that.
I don’t mind PMs or e-mails either. Granted, I haven’t received many from here, but it’s always nice when I do.
I’ve never received an email or PM initiated by someone else.
I’ve emailed several people and have gotten “appreciative” replies from all but one. One reply (to an email I sent because I didn’t want to hijack the thread and a separate thread was unnecessary) seemed snarky, but I let it go.
One never responded at all to the email I sent, in response to a hijack type question asking for specific information.
I want an email.
I don’t mind it at all, but I’m shy about PMing or e-mailing people out of the blue. I received a very helpful PM not long ago, and I appreciated the information that she offered.
I have e-mailed, a couple of times. One incredibly kind person responded to my e-mail and told me some things that gave me some closure and peace about my father’s death. Another was a friendly source of support and chit-chat about kids and stuff.
I don’t quite get the reason for PMs if an email addy is available (both are in my case). Email is a little more flexible and less limited for attachments and continuous conversations, otherwise I don’t care.
You beat me to my post. What she said.
Except I don’t really get any PMs here. Not special enough. It’s not easy being noticed in a crowd of 69,000.
My experience with PM’s and emails, like most others in this thread, have been 100% positive. I’m wondering what brought up the question for the OP?
Thanks again for the PM askeptic. I think that the way in which you used the feature was entirely the reason for it being in place. Sometimes you want to say something to another poster that really doesn’t need to be in a thread.
Ditto.
I had the confusing experience of having 3 people PM me about the same thread-- two of them telling me I was totally right, way to go, etc., and the other saying I was a complete jackass and should STFU. That was really confusing, esp. considering the topic was one about which my feelings are tepid at best.
IMO any PMs that are negative, should be disregarded. That’s uncalled for.
I have 10 PMs in the upper right hand corner. I haven’t deleted them because I like remembering that people wanted to talk to meeeeeeee.
Okay, that sounds pretty pathetic. It’s not that big a deal.