There is an adage that, during your lifetime, you should have an affair with someone half your age, and someone twice your age. This could be a chance in a lifetime for both parties involved.
59 with a 24 year old partner.
We’re both legal, so what of it?
I’m sorry to hear that. However, that can happen to anyone. My mom and dad are the same age (he’s 81, she’s 80). He was a Chief Scientist at the Lab until just last year when he had to retire to take care of her. She’s been housebound for the last 5 years or so, and nearly bedridden for the last 2. His life consists of feeding her, changing her, helping her go to the bathroom, etc. Otherwise, he still drives and would work if he could.
The point is, we all face old age whether we’re the same age as our partner or not. Usually one partner “gets there” before the other, and one ends up taking care of the other. That doesn’t make it right or wrong to marry a person of a particular age.
I don’t know the name of it, but there’s a game show where the audience is asked a question and the contestants have to guess the answer.
A question on last night’s show was: “An age that’s too old to date a 21-year old”.
What if instead the question was, “Percent of people who think it’s wrong to date a black person if you’re white”? There would have been outrage (and rightly so!!).
Enough said!
I am an attractive and educated 22 year old female. I have met a number of men my age that I have absolutely nothing in common with. But low and behold I met a man quite older than me that I could sit down and have a great conversation over a glass of wine. People need to realize every person is different. And people should not have to abide by society’s “rules” when it comes to dating. If men can be in relationships with other men and women with other women. Live and let live… Age gap relationships deserve equality just as others do.
I am currently seeing someone 16 years younger than I, but we are both over 25 and have not had any age related problems so far.
If the age gap were really extreme (e.g. the 70+ year old man with 30ish girlfriend I saw in my clinic yesterday) I might find it viscerally icky, but there’s nothing wrong with it.