All isotopes of carbon (C12, 13 and 14) can bond four times. It has nothing to do with being an isotope, which is the result of differences in number of neutrons in the nucleus of the atom, but rather it has to do with the construction of the atom itself.
Carbon has 6 electrons and 6 protons (the number of neutrons are either 6, 7 or 8, add that to the protons, you get the weight of C12, 12 and 14). Because of how atoms are, two of the electrons are located in one “shell” around the nucleus, and the other 4 are located in another shell.
As a general rule, electrons like to be paired up, and atoms are happiest when they have shells with 8 electrons in them, or 4 pairs (the first shell is happiest with only 2, which allows us to have hydrogen and helium as elements). So, in order to haev 8 electrons in its outer shell, carbon must get 4 more, and the way it does this is to share them with other atoms. In the case of CH4, the carbon basically takes the single electron from each hydrogen to make it’s 4 pairs. In return, each hydrogen can be paired with one of the 4 electrons that originally belonged to the carbon.
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Carbon can be very happy sharing electrons with many other atoms as well. In the case of life, the most common would be oxygen, nitrogen, phosphorus and sulfur. Each of these have different numbers of electrons to share, and so different combinations can happen, like C=O (where each line is 2 electons) or C-O-X where X is another atom (If you think about it, you’ll see that oxygen therefore has 2 electrons to share, its outter shell has 6 electrons, 4 of which pair with each other, and the other two seek out carbon to share with).
I don’t know if that’s a very clear explanation. To me, this sort of thing is best explained with pictures, not words. Any high school chemistry book, or even just google, can tell you more. Just look up bonding and valence electrons.
Before someone nitpicks me, sometimes atoms don’t share electrons, but rather one will take one from the other: NaCl (table salt) has a sodium atom with one outer shell electron, so it’s happy to give it away to make Na+ and Chlorine has 7, so it will take it from sodium to make 8 total, and Cl -.