Don't ask don't tell

This sounds suspiciously like an urban legend. Unless you have a cite handy?

Regards,
Shodan

Randy Shilts, “Conduct Unbecoming: A History of Gays and Lesbians in the US Military”:

Well, certainly the case of Dan Choi doesn’t fit that assumption. West Point grad, Arabic translator.

Neither does the case of Bleu Copas, or Stephen Benjamin or Cathleen Glover and Alistair Gamble.

Thanks for the link on Benjamin, Cappy. It was a good read.

Nor does the case of Lt. Col. Victor Fehrenbach, USAF, who opposed his discharge and was kicked out, two years shy of the 20 year mark where he could have retired with full benefits. He doesn’t appear to have had any fears about being in combat: