hey asshole, he fixed my coding for me. that’s all. once again it is indeed you being the asshole. stop.
But you are disrupting your family RIGHT NOW. You are giving less than 100% to your marriage because you want to be happy with someone else. And less than 100% to your marriage hurts your kids. Oh, you may not be beating them with coathangers, but they know you treat Daddy different.
If you want to call me an asshole, please start your own thread. Stop shitting in this one.
RSSchen, you want some non-judgmental advice? **Stop posting here about this and your other issues. **You have posted some incredibly damaging information here during the past few months. You may not think your husband is all that bright, but I guarantee you that his lawyer is, and what you have posted lately is grounds for a very nasty divorce, not to mention custody battle. So keep on doing what you’re doing if you must, but stop posting about it!
Phone rings
Kettle: Yo yo, who is this?
Pot: Hey Kettle, this is pot.
Kettle: Oh, hey dude. What’s up?
Pot: Not much dawg. I got somethin’ to tell you
Kettle: Wazzat?
Pot: You’re black!
click
Kettle: WTF?!
Good afternoon.
In another marriage in another part of this nation I am that husband. Right now my marriage is spiraling to divorce as my wife is busy being happy (as she believes she deserves to be).
Though I have been dealing with this reality since September I have kept the home ship sailing so my stepson can graduate high school before we blow it all up. My young children with herself, an eight year old boy and seven year old girl, are unaware of the upcoming hell, other than Daddy now lives in the basement.
In my case I am not really upset that she has made herself happier. So be it. It sure has been miserable as it stands. I wish her the best.
What bothers me is the deciet that surrounds it all - she expects me to pay alimony after our separation so she can continue to ‘live in the manner she is accoustomed’ as she is happy to repeat.
What she fails to consider is that I work 50+ hours a week and live paycheck to paycheck to provide as it stands. I will lose my house, my savings and a huge chunk of my future to meet my obligations. I will lose my children. I am screwed.
And I will be financially handicapped from setting myself back up again for a long time.
Change of heart? Affairs? Moving on? Fine, that’s life. I understand that I rolled the dice and wound up losing.
However if the cheating spouse in any affair cannot stand up and take the appropriate consequences for their actions, and chooses to further destroy their family for their own benefit, then there is no curse strong enough that I can utter that will display my contempt.
If I was your husband I’d much prefer the company of a miserable woman who wasn’t a fucking whore. But personally, I wouldn’t want to be around either of you.
So you’re planning when to leave while you wring a few final dollars out of him? I guess that upgrades you to a gold-digging fucking whore.
Your husband deserves better than you. But then, ANYONE is better than you.
I was just fixing the link that was screwed up in her post, dipshit. I don’t care about you one way or the other. Get over yourself.
Again, if you want to call me a dipshit, start your own Pit thread.
Oh, so you’re doing this for him, what a selfless martyr you are.
Go back and try thinking about it again. He deserves someone who loves him fully; he’s getting you, who plan to drain his wallet for three years while you date on the side, and you plan to inform him riiiiiiiiiight before you jump ship. “See you, honey, thanks for the $60,000 you spent on me in the past three years, my new husband really appreciates the ring you bought him, and by the way, can we talk alimony payments? I want half your income. Bye!”
Admit it. You’re not telling him because you don’t have the courage.
Do you honestly think you can maintain an affair for three years without your husband finding out? Is Lover Boy going to be happy with stolen moments for three years, or is he going to want to have a real life with a woman who doesn’t have to hide?
You are so “happy” right now - how are you going to feel when it all crashes and burns? Or have you looked that far into the future?
Why is “three years” so magical? So your children will be older and more able to understand what you are doing to them and their father?
Do Lover Boy’s teenagers know about you? Do they know you’re married? What do you think their opinion of you will be?
I’m not going to call you names, but can’t you just for a few minutes quit thinking with your crotch and consider someone other than yourself?
I’ll call you a dipshit whenever I feel like it, dipshit. Try to pay attention next time you make unwarranted accusations.
Well, I suppose it’s okay to lie and use him as long as he’s getting a more pleasant person to be around. Win win for everyone involved.
All perfectly wonderful reasons for a divorce and lousy reasons to cheat on him while he carries you financially. Best thing you can do is find yourself a job and lay off the affair until the divorce is final so he can’t bend you over in the divorce proceedings.
And yet you’ve done nothing about it. Must be too caught up in your own happiness to actually show that your husbands matters even the smallest amount to you.
Do you even understand what you are doing to your husband and your family? Do you understand how selfish you are being? While your husband is supporting you and your family, you are lying to him and wrecking the crap out of your family. It doesn’t matter that you are doing it in secret while waiting for the right time to get the divorce (and I’m betting the right time will be five seconds after he finds out you’ve been cheating on him). If you care about your family and our husband at all, just end it.
And can we please end this Aeschines is a jerk hijack? Bump the pit thread and discuss there. He at least seems to be posting honestly in this thread. If you don’t like his posts, address them on topic. If you don’t like him as a poster, take it somewhere else.
I must say that what staggers me the most about all of this is that RSSChen, aside from being a liar and a cheater and all of that is just plumb lazy. LAZY. It’s one thing to be a cuckolding whore but to continue an affair simply because you don’t want to get a real fucking job and then to hide your LAZINESS and disinterest in supporting yourself by asserting the needs of your children…a job which you’ve completely left behind at this point!!!
Am I the only person who is cackling at the self-delusion of continuing an illicit affair for “the sake of the children”??? Bitch please!!! If you’re sooooo much smarter than your husband why can’t you go out and get a better job???
My sister was in this situation a few years ago. I’ll admit that her husband was a particularly dirtbaggy piece of work, nevertheless, that didn’t excuse cheating on him and staying with him so that he’d continue to pay the bills. According to my mom, sis once said to her in a phone call, “Mom, I hate this. Every time I have sex with [my husband] I feel like a prostitute.”
Mom said, “Honey, that’s what you are.”
What does that matter? She’s HAPPY!! :rolleyes: Nobody else matters.
What accusations?
Lucky him.
Have you brought this up with him? And, if so, did you make it known exactly how badly this was making you feel? And, if so, did either of you think about marriage counseling?
It’s too late for that. If a boat has sprung a leak, and no one knows about it, that doesn’t mean the boat isn’t sinking.
It “sounded smart” because it’s an actual evaluation of the situation. Unfortunately, it’s from an irrelevant standpoint.
You really need to start acting on that thinking, then.
LilShieste
The Pit thread in your honor has been bumped. It would behoove you to take the discussion over there.
And she’s a much more pleasant person to be around. :rolleyes:
Jesus H. Christ, woman, are you even reading what you’re typing? You are justifying cheating on your husband because it makes you a better wife? :smack:
I can’t even begin to wrap my mind around your logic. I submit you are so deep in Denial Land you can’t even comprehend the wrongness of your actions. That’s why
It’s not even occurred to you that you are behaving badly. And until we can enlighten you with the basics of that, my dear, I fear this will be an exercise in futility.
It’s like teaching a kid calculus when he doesn’t understand algebra. There are some concepts that he just Will Not Get.