Where do you and your roommate hang out the most at home?
Do you share the communal living area the majority of the time or do you both hang out in your own perspective rooms?
Bonus question:
If your roommate died in their sleep; how long would you wait before you went into their room to find out what’s the matter?
Also, out of curiosity, please state your gender.
Myself: Male
We both pretty much spend most of our time in our own rooms. Once in a while we’ll hang out in the living room, drink beer and watch a ballgame or two. But that’s pretty much it. Ironically, my roommate is my closest friend. Hell, I’ve known him for so long now he seems more like a brother to me to tell you the truth. I guess it’s just that we don’t want to share the remote so we hang out in our rooms most of the time. (heh, heh, men)
As for the bonus question: I’d probably wait three or four days. Or until I noticed a stink. Which ever came first.
I’ve had both kinds of roommates. My current, slightly messed up living arrangements involves my fiancee and I sharing a two bedroom townhouse style apartment with my roommate from college and her boyfriend. While I’ve known them for years, her boyfriend basically proved himself to be a terribly selfish and mean person in September and there was a big blowup. She works and goes to school full time, so I only see her in passing, although we do hang out if we’re both here and not doing anything else. I haven’t seen her boyfriend since then. I know he still lives here as I see is possessions move. My fiancee and I pretty much have the place to ourselves for half the rent. I’m not sure I would notice of one of them died until it started to smell more than their room already does.
The last roommate I had we did everything together. Granted we were sharing a one bedroom so there wasn’t really anywhere to go. He used to mill about uncomfortably while my fiancee (boyfriend at the time) were on the phone (long distance relationship). I would have noticed right away, unless he died in the bathroom, and then maybe about 30 minutes.
I think my situation is atypical. My roommate is a coworker (we’re in the same lab), a friend from before that, and of the desired gender (female–I’m male.) We spend almost all of our non-sleep time near each other since we work, shop, and often hang out together (not always, just more often than not.) Strangely enough, there has been a distinct lack of yelling, fisticuffs, murder, or shagging, and I can safely say I don’t see any of the above in the near future.
To answer the questions:
Neither of us is home very much since we work 70-80 hours/week. I think it’s about 50/50 common space/rooms. We eat in the common space, and occasionally we’ll both sit out there with our laptops. Usually after eating we’ll go to our rooms, shower, do whatever on the computer phone, and go to bed. I spend more time in the common area since I’ll get stuck in a book during dinner or I’ll want to see how some show ends. She’s usually in a rush to do more work :rolleyes: or call her boyfriend.
If one of died on an evening before a work day, there would be door knocking (“Hey, you’re gonna miss the bus!”) Then door-opening and corpse-finding. I think. Neither of has ever actually gone in the other’s room unbidden (I think that the respect of privacy has helped us not kill each other) but I’m paranoid and would worry. I’m pretty sure she’d check in on me too. I’ll ask.
If it were a weekend, we don’t go in quite so freakishly early, and will often sleep in a whole hour :eek: . Bodies would not be found until evening.
I spend most of my time in my room. He generally spends more time in the living room, because he watches TV and I don’t. If we eat dinner at home, sometimes we’ll put on a DVD and watch it together in front of the TV.
I have to pass his room on my way to the bathroom, and he’s always awake before me (and at work if it’s a weekday), so I’d probably notice within minutes of waking if he was dead in bed.
I have one roommate. We’re both female. What’s odd about our situation is that we live at our university’s Catholic house. That means that there are generally other people at our house throughout the day. They’re mostly people I’m friends with through our Catholic Campus Ministry program, so it isn’t a big deal, but lately I’ve been getting fed up with a lot of the politics that occur in any situation. I spend an amazing amount of my time either in my room or actively staying away from the house. Occasionally, I’ll try to reach out to her and we’ll play cards, watch a movie, drink, eat, etc. This usually ends in her being mean and me leaving the room.
I don’t like my roommate, so there’s a good chance someone else would find her before I did. I’m not sure I would notice if I didn’t see her for a few days other than to think to myself how nice it was not to have her around being bitchy and judgmental.
Hmm…I’ve probably not painted the best picture of my school’s Catholic group. As a disclaimer, a fair amount of my problem is that most of the group this year is freshman girls who are very high pitched; I’m a fairly laid back senior. They’re fun in small doses, but beyond that, they’re hard to handle.
When I moved to L.A. a friend dropped by the house from time to time. He’d bring his family to hang out at the beach, watch videos at the house, fire up the grill, etc. Then he moved across the state. I needed someone to make sure the house didn’t fall down while I was gone. As it happens, another friend had been living in Canada while trying to obtain residency there. The Candian authorities said he had to pursue his residency from this side of the border. He needed a place to live, and I needed someone in the house. Worked out well!
Now that I’m back in the house, we barely see each other. He works a 4/40 schedule at night, and I work during the day. Our paths may cross for 20 minutes in the evening. I’m starting a 4/40 schedule next week, so we’ll only run into each other Fridays and weekends. (Or the weekends he’s here. He spends a lot of time at his g/f’s place in Canada.)
We hang out in the living room. We’ll either agree to watch something on TV, or one of us will watch something and the other decides to watch it too. Or we’ll read or get onto the Internet. Both of us like to cook, so we share cooking duties. I want to remodel the back bedroom and he’s done some work on it. (Since he’s a friend and I’m currently doing OK money-wise, I’m not charging him rent; so he does handiwork around the house.) New exterior doors this weekend for both rear bedrooms. He sleeps in the middle-sized bedroom.
How long would I wait before I went into his bedroom to see if he was still alive? I don’t know. With a night schedule I expect him to be asleep when I’m awake. I’m sure his dog would let me know if anything was wrong though.
Awesome Roommate (AR) and I tend to hang out in the common areas (living room, kitchen) and I’m always popping into her room to hang out if she’s on her computer. Horrible Roommate (HR) holes up in her room, moreso since the "eating with her mouth open incident. She’s been studiously ignoring me for weeks.
AR: Probably less than a day, but she frequently naps during the day or is at work. No longer than a day.
HR: Never. I’d just assume she’d been avoiding me and be glad I didn’t have to hear her chew the cud recently. Since her room is right by the bathroom, I’d never even notice the stink.
I usually hang out in my room (my computer is there…) My roommate, on the rare times when she is home, is either in her room or in the living room watching TV.
I very seldom hang out in our communal living room… I just moved in with her in December and I’ll be moving out in June, so it kinda doesn’t really feel like my place, in a way. The living room is completely decorated by her, etc. even though I brought a couch with me (an uncomfortable $18 couch, but a couch nonetheless! We figured it was better than nothing… But since it’s uncomfortable, dirty, and has all my roommate’s crap in there, I mostly stay in my own room or the kitchen.
Well, I would be highly suspicious if my roommate’s door was closed for very long. She’s hardly ever at home, and even when she is, usually leaves her door open so the cats can run about. So it’d be weird to see the door closed.
I have two roommates. One is in my department at school, and while I don’t see her too much at home (she often stays with her boyfriend), if I went 24 hours without seeing her either at home or in the office, I’d start to look for her and ask around. The other roommate I can go days without seeing - I’d start to worry in a few days if I didn’t see her car parked when it should be and gone when it should be.
We never hang out in each others’ rooms. We do hang out, when we do at home, in the common areas.
I live in a 3br with two other people. Basically, we try to avoid each other. They have similar TV tastes (soap operas, Entertainment Tonight, I Love the 80s, American Idol, Sopranos) and my TV tastes are nothing like that, so we’re rarely all in one room.
If one of them died, and the other one didn’t notice, I think it would take me at least a week. I often have no idea when they’re going out of town and vice versa. I don’t think I have ever been physically inside either of their bedrooms, despite us having lived here together for over a year.
I live in a 3 bedroom townhouse in DC, and I probably spend most of my time in my bedroom as it is where my computer is. One of my other roomates is a guy, one of my best friends who i’ve known since freshman year of high school, and the other is a girl who got the room after we advertised on Craiglist. Both of us are pretty heavily into computers so we’ll spend a lot of time in our respective rooms with out doors open playing Counter-Strike against each other and yelling insults and/or strategy back and forth.
We do also spend a fair amount of time in the communal areas, although it’s mostly in the kitchen because he’s a very accomplished cook so i’ll just kind of tag around and help when I can. Neither of us really watch all that much TV so the living room isn’t used too often unless we’re playing the N64.
I would say that it would take less than 12 hours or so for me to notice if either one was dead, since we do usually spend a good deal of time together both in and outside of the house.
I don’t have a roommate and I haven’t had one since I moved out of my college dorm. I’m a person who doesn’t like sharing his space. So maybe it’s just me that finds the situation gfloyd described unusual.
But you’re currently sharing a two bedroom apartment with a person you haven’t seen in seven months? You don’t see this guy using the kitchen or coming in and out of the bathroom or entering and leaving the apartment? What does he do? Has he been hiding in his room since September?
And I’m almost as confused by your previous situation. You were engaged to one man but you were living with and sharing a bedroom with another man? Didn’t any of you find this unusual?
We mostly hang out either in the living room or in our rooms- just depending. I’d say half the time one of us is in our own room, the other one is in there.
I’d probably notice within a few hours and vice versa- we know one another’s schedules.
My roommates never seem to be home. I spend most of my time in my room, unless I’m watching TV. The rest of them only enter the communal space when they’re using the kitchen.
Good God, it’d take forever. I go months without seeing one of them, and it’s not uncommon for me not to see the other two for days. If one of them died, I honestly don’t think that I’d notice.
We usually both hang out in the living room/dining room area. I’m usually on the computer and she’s on the couch watching TV. That’s exactly what’s going on right now, actually.
We usually both hang out in common areas.
Within a day or so. She works with a mutual friend and if she didn’t come to work, our friend would ask me what’s up.
I’m male and my roommate is female. We are both in our late 20’s.
My old roommate and I had been friends for years. We had shared a one bed room before. We were living together when I started dating my fiancee. I was poor.
That’s pretty much my excuse for our current situation. Not anymore, but when we moved back from California, we could not afford a place of our own and neither of us minded having roommates.
How do I manage not to see my roommate. I leave by 7:30 every morning. He pursumably doesn’t have class until some time after that. When I get home at 6:30, he’s gone to work or with friends. We’re in bed by 11. He comes home sometime after that. I hear him some nights. Rinse and repeat, for seven months. He also stays at his dad’s sometimes. It’s weird, I know. Now that we’re not so poor, we’re moving soon.
