You know, God had to have created two or three other guys after Adam and Eve. Because what’s the use of hitting that in the Garden of Eden if you don’t have a crew to run to and tell them you scored?
Seriously, guys brag. And women get a lot of heat for being bragged about, whether the bragging is fact-based or not. So I think we’ve got a few more blogs to go before the number of humiliated guys is more than a fraction of the number of humiliated women.
I detest guys who do that kind of bragging.
Same here. Speaking as a female, I’d be pissed if someone said those things about my sexual prowess/looks and included a photo of me. I often get the feeling, though, that many think that saying stuff like that about a woman is crass but being critical of a man’s looks or sexual ability is funny or cute. Like all the bitchy comments that the characters on Sex and the City make–if the genders were reversed, I think a lot of people would be thinking, “What a slimeball.”
Mmm…Don’t want to derail the thread, and it doesn’t quite rate a separate thread.
Now isn’t that typical; they’re men, so they should be punished for the alleged sins of other men they have nothing to do with. A phenomenon that reminds me greatly of the historical persecution of women in the name of “Eve’s sin”.
This is eerily similar to the attitudes expressed by some Dopers after the Duke lacrosse team was cleared of those fabricated rape charges.
These days, I just assume every girl I sleep with maintains a powerpoint dossier.
Dammit! :smack:
:mad:
I had no idea I was in a cage all this time! I want out! I want out!
You guys do know you are being whooshed, don’t you? Probably by some other men in a fraternity somewhere.
I’m not saying that. I’m saying that it’s unusual enough to hear of men being wronged by gossip that I feel like I’m in Bizarro World. I’m not getting joy out of this, but neither am I outraged.
Then what’s the point? You can get the same pleasure all by yourself. She was just masturbating, not having sex.
Hardly. Men have rumors and accusations (false and otherwise) about them spread all the time; this is relatively harmless compared to the more usual ones of being a child molester, a rapist, or an abuser. And of course there’s the old favorite of spreading rumors claiming a man is gay. There’s another thread in the Pit right now in fact about a man who suicided after his homosexual tryst was recorded and tossed onto the net. If anything the difference is that a woman is less likely to get imprisoned, assaulted, or killed because of it. Well, and that a woman is more likely to get sympathy instead of indifference or gloating.
Men are victimized all the time by rumors of marital infidelity, homosexuality, pedohilia, etc. Even gossip about ostensibly normal hetero sex can result in snickering rumors about performance, size, erectile dysfunction, kinks, etc.
Like I said, I loathe sophomoric male sexual braggadocio that dehumanizes women and I am not any more sympathetic to it when the genders are reversed.
If you think masturbating feels the same as no-emotions sex, you’re a whole lot better at masturbating than I am, and probably use some amazing props to boot.
On top of which - and I think this is the only reason this matters - if your opinion is that she was just masturbating, what’s wrong with that?
I do agree with all of this, and I apologize for being more hyperbolic about it than I need to. But I don’t see how this particular scenario, at least in terms of the sex (the documentation part was reckless and thoughtless) is an example of sexual licentiousness gone wrong. I mean, some people have thousands of sexual partners over decades. She was what, like 19 or 20 years old? And she probably slept with somewhere between 10 and 20 guys? The thing that distinguishes her from a normal college woman, whose dad presumably is free to be proud of her comportment, isn’t the frequency or profligacy with which she had sex; it’s the sense of entitlement she so obviously feels toward it. And in that regard, if in no other regard, I think she deserves to be defended. It really is OK that she had sex with a bunch of athletes. It really is OK that the things she was pursuing were apparently quite shallow. It’s very normal, and she acted like it was normal. Most people don’t do that, and most people expect women not to. But it is normal, and it isn’t reasonable to call her a whore etc. for it.
or lack thereof.
It appears we have stumbled over a dope sexual more. They are surprisingly more prevalent than one would think.
Frankly, I don’t really care one way or the other about her sex life, since, you know, it’s her’s and all. And if the guys are upset at people finding out they had sex with her, I submit that they shouldn’t have been having sex in the first place then. It shouldn’t be something to be embarrassed about.
Humiliate? She gave glowing reviews to the guys who were good.
No you cannot. Give me a fucking break.
Marks RealityChuck down as someone who has never had a decent fuck, or is an incredibly good masturbator.
:rolleyes: That’s ridiculous. The vast majority of people do not want the details of their sex life spread about indiscriminately regardless of whether or not they are embarrassed about having sex in the first place. It’s called “privacy”.