I did a quick search and saw very few mentions of people dealing with family with early Alzheimer’s (younger than 70), so I’m hoping to get a little more input here.
We had always joked about MIL being Edith Bunker. For years she was notorious for throwing out cordless phones and remotes or leaving her reading glasses at people’s houses. She put a paycheck in the garbage and left shells in the scrambled eggs. A sweet lady but a real dingbat.
Last year we suggested that she get tested for Alzheimer’s because it seemed like she was slipping more. She told us that she was OK. She was lying.
Her GP did some tests, sent her to a psychiatrist for more tests and they confirmed that she has AD. They put her on Aricept and she seemed to do OK.
Last week she finally came clean to us that she has AD. She is 65, active and healthy in all other respects. She told us that in the past year she has done nothing else besides take the Aricept: she hasn’t gone to a neurologist, has had no further testing done, hasn’t talked to a support group, lawyer or financial planner. Nothing.
My wife and I have told her we will work with her and get her set up with all of the people she needs. We are taking her to a caregivers meeting this Sunday for first stage AD. We have also told her that, when the time comes, she is moving in with us (my FIL barely tolerates her now and he will only get worse as she does).
My question to the Dopers is, what do we have to look forward to :dubious: as this progresses? It’s bad enough when you are watching an 80+ year old slide downhill because you expect the elderly to become senile and out of touch. But what will we see with a 65 year old woman who loves to travel and read and go to concerts? She walks the dog a couple miles every day and is very active. What kinds of signs should we watch out for? And, not to be too morbid, how long (or short) will she have?
What kinds of planning should we do? I know she needs to take care of her finances (pension, stocks, personal savings), power of attorney, living will, regular will (she has a lot of expensive jewelry, crystal and artwork), health care planning, potential nursing care when we can no longer provide the kind of care she will need in our house, even with assistance. Anything else we need to take care of while she is still cognizant?
Thanks for your help.