Please don’t get hung up on the word “lazy” and try to paint it as a racist observation–although it is an effective way to cut off debate. There does in exist in the world something called “lazy” speech. Kids of all culture use it, “Ma. I’m goin’ out now.”, as do some regions.
So far, one implication of racist, one of stupid… When a child’s speech is wrong, TELL HIM, what the heck is so awful about that? When we–all the kids in my class–used “ain’t” or “gonna” we were corrected. No one thought, "Oh my God! Those teachers are so mean ans insensitive. And poor Johnny, what will this do to his self-esteem? Will he ever recover!!!
If we were talking about different languages I would agree with your point.
WHAT THE HECK IS SO WRONG ABOUT TELLING A CHILD THAT THEY ARE DOING SOMETHING WRONG WHEN THEY ARE, IN FACT, DOING SOMETHING WRONG? You want to “translate” for the kid? Tell them you are “translating” from somehting that is wrong into something that is correct? Or is there no longer a “correct”? These kids, often kids at risk, need to be taught, not coddled. I’m not saying to be mean, or insulting, but just let them know that if they want access more of the world when they’re older, that here’s a better way to do that. Oh wait, there’s probably no “better” any more either.
You and I would, I assume, want to see the options for these children improved. And we’d probably agree that education is the way to do that. We both want kids to be proficient in SE. Where we differ is that I think that any approach that attempts to “legitamize” (sorry if the word makes you cringe) what we’re calling ebonics lessens the likelihood that children will feel the need to learn SE. The more you make it acceptable the less necessary SE becomes. And that is flat out bad. Because without that tool, their futures don’t look nearly as bright as they do with it.

