I am childless by choice: female (no known repro issues), hetero, married, mid-30’s.
I have chosen to be childless for a couple of reasons:
I don’t particularly like children (cue assorted gasps of horror). Everyone has always said “its different when its yours” and all I can say is that there are an awful lot of people who kill their own children, therefore you don’t know that “its different when its yours”. Maybe it was for you, but maybe it wouldn’t be for me. As I see it children = 9 months of giving up my supremacy of my body. Once I become pregnant every decision I make from thereon is supposed to be guided by the thoughts of the little sproutling. Then for the next 18 years, I have to raise and care for this child, putting their concerns above my own, and in the meantime generally having to succumb to society’s expectations, or else I will be a bad mom.
I believe I would be a terrible parent, based on the fact that my dogs are mis-behaving monsters, I would likely be the parent with the mis-behaving brats in public and the thought of turning into that nauseates me.
It is nice that the use of my time and money are solely directed by me, but that wasn’t one of the primary reasons, but it is a very nice benefit.
choosing to remain childless is not selfish, its not like there’s a shortage of humans on the planet.
BTW: your grandkids helping me in the nursing home? they already owe me for paying for schools and parks, which I gladly do, as I know that it is an important societal need.